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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 385503" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Checklists are handy for a lot of people. So are alarm clocks and timers. Sometimes it helps to always do things in the same order, other times mixing it up a bit is helpful. Some chores might tie themselves to other things she does in a natural way. For example if she is supposed to let the dog out to go potty in the morning before school, she has to wait until she lets the dog out to go potty herself. Or link feeding the cat with herdinner or after school snack.</p><p> </p><p>You can also set up various memory tools to help her remember. Sooner or later everyone needs help remembering. So if she is fond of dominoes link a different color double domino to each chore. If she has a favorite song use the melody and write your own words with the steps to her chores set to that song. (When Wiz was little you should have <em>heard</em> the ways husband twisted the Barney song, LOL!). Or use mnemonics to teach her to remember. </p><p> </p><p>Maybe take the letters of her name:</p><p> </p><p>D is for dusting</p><p>U is for unloading the dishwasher</p><p>C is for Cleaning the Cat Chunks (litter box)</p><p>K is for Klearing the dishes after dinner</p><p>I is for Icing the Cookies (just tossing one in for fun)</p><p>E is for Emptying the laundry baskets into the dresser</p><p> </p><p>A few years ago husband got stuck with an entire box of unusable business cards because they listed us as living in OR and not OK. We used the back of the cards and wrote one chore or chunk of chore on each card. The cards got an estimate of the amt of time it would take to complete the chore and a symbol that shower that showed which child or children were properly taught how to do the work and could be expected to do the work. I think they were separated into daily weekly weekend and monthly chores. One day a week husband would shuffle the chore deck and either let the kids draw or he would deal the cards. It kept things changing, ended arguments about "fairness" and the kids seemed tof ind it fun.</p><p> </p><p>I know a woman who tried "Chore Twister" a few years ago. I don't recommend it. At least not by taping the names of the chores onto the Twister Board. The first chance they got that she was working on the weekend, the kids convinced her husband that she intended for him to not only do part of the chores but also to actually PLAY the game. A banged up knee, wrenched back and neck and the mirth of the ER staff were all that Chore Twister accomplished. You HAVE to chuckle at the idea.</p><p> </p><p>Another take is to figure out something she REALLY REALLY REALLY wants and get it. THen let her know it is there and that she can ONLY earn it with chores. </p><p> </p><p>If you are looking to get her to remember a set list of anything, there are some key ways to help memory. Tie as many senses into the information as possible. The more of your senses you use as you learn something the better your recall is. Scent is especially powerful and often overlooked. So have her use a cleaner that smells good as she elarns how to do the chore and as she learns that she has to remember to do it. Pleasant senses are a better option if you want her to do the chores willingly. </p><p> </p><p>Also, once you establish the routine with a written schedule, post it in places she is likely to stop and sit for a moment. Also her mirror and reminders can be put on the computer screen, tv, microwave oven and any otherscreens/windows she is likely to see often or will prevent her from starting a usual routine. Do NOT forget to post it on the walls around the toilet at a level that she is likely to see every time she uses the facilities. She is likely to see a list/reminder/etc... most often and absprb its' meaning if it is posted there. It is how my mom got through calculus in college. ANd how I learned matrices at the same time she did - the idea and instructions were plastered all over the walls around the toilet - I couldn't AVOID them, lol!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 385503, member: 1233"] Checklists are handy for a lot of people. So are alarm clocks and timers. Sometimes it helps to always do things in the same order, other times mixing it up a bit is helpful. Some chores might tie themselves to other things she does in a natural way. For example if she is supposed to let the dog out to go potty in the morning before school, she has to wait until she lets the dog out to go potty herself. Or link feeding the cat with herdinner or after school snack. You can also set up various memory tools to help her remember. Sooner or later everyone needs help remembering. So if she is fond of dominoes link a different color double domino to each chore. If she has a favorite song use the melody and write your own words with the steps to her chores set to that song. (When Wiz was little you should have [I]heard[/I] the ways husband twisted the Barney song, LOL!). Or use mnemonics to teach her to remember. Maybe take the letters of her name: D is for dusting U is for unloading the dishwasher C is for Cleaning the Cat Chunks (litter box) K is for Klearing the dishes after dinner I is for Icing the Cookies (just tossing one in for fun) E is for Emptying the laundry baskets into the dresser A few years ago husband got stuck with an entire box of unusable business cards because they listed us as living in OR and not OK. We used the back of the cards and wrote one chore or chunk of chore on each card. The cards got an estimate of the amt of time it would take to complete the chore and a symbol that shower that showed which child or children were properly taught how to do the work and could be expected to do the work. I think they were separated into daily weekly weekend and monthly chores. One day a week husband would shuffle the chore deck and either let the kids draw or he would deal the cards. It kept things changing, ended arguments about "fairness" and the kids seemed tof ind it fun. I know a woman who tried "Chore Twister" a few years ago. I don't recommend it. At least not by taping the names of the chores onto the Twister Board. The first chance they got that she was working on the weekend, the kids convinced her husband that she intended for him to not only do part of the chores but also to actually PLAY the game. A banged up knee, wrenched back and neck and the mirth of the ER staff were all that Chore Twister accomplished. You HAVE to chuckle at the idea. Another take is to figure out something she REALLY REALLY REALLY wants and get it. THen let her know it is there and that she can ONLY earn it with chores. If you are looking to get her to remember a set list of anything, there are some key ways to help memory. Tie as many senses into the information as possible. The more of your senses you use as you learn something the better your recall is. Scent is especially powerful and often overlooked. So have her use a cleaner that smells good as she elarns how to do the chore and as she learns that she has to remember to do it. Pleasant senses are a better option if you want her to do the chores willingly. Also, once you establish the routine with a written schedule, post it in places she is likely to stop and sit for a moment. Also her mirror and reminders can be put on the computer screen, tv, microwave oven and any otherscreens/windows she is likely to see often or will prevent her from starting a usual routine. Do NOT forget to post it on the walls around the toilet at a level that she is likely to see every time she uses the facilities. She is likely to see a list/reminder/etc... most often and absprb its' meaning if it is posted there. It is how my mom got through calculus in college. ANd how I learned matrices at the same time she did - the idea and instructions were plastered all over the walls around the toilet - I couldn't AVOID them, lol! [/QUOTE]
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