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<blockquote data-quote="tiredmommy" data-source="post: 385733" data-attributes="member: 1722"><p>Thanks everyone.</p><p> </p><p>Jena- that's too funny about the mirror!</p><p> </p><p>CM- While I generally agree with taking away privileges when a child isn't doing the necessary things, I'm also concerned that she's digging a pretty deep hole for herself. She was already grounded, and realistically, she's taking so long on homework that she really doesn't have much down time. So I ended her grounding a day early and let her play with bff. Just because.</p><p> </p><p>ML- We're fortunate that every student in Duckie's school has a take home binder and agenda. Which is great if she actually remembers to bring stuff home...</p><p> </p><p>Janet- I spoke a little more in depth with Duckie's teacher this morning, gave her a very limited history outlining that it's really been a continual problem. She said that she'll keep a closer eye for the next few weeks and let me know if she thinks I should pursue another evaluation. She said she has seen kids with worse time management and organization skills but conceded that an involved parent making sure everything at least gets in her bag could mask a lot of problems. She hopes that some simple behavior modification and check-ins will bring about a noticeable improvement. I hope so too because I'd hate to put Duckie through an evaluation if she doesn't need it.</p><p> </p><p>Lisa- I have done the "walk-through-the-house-with-a-trash-bag" thing and it does work. But it feels different this time. She hasn't really had a chance to leave her toys laying around, it's more homework, laundry and dishes.</p><p> </p><p>KTMom- Duckie already knows I won't bring stuff to school. I've only retrieved something from school once, when she was crying that she left her bag. She was supposed to do a practice math test for state testing and was just beside herself on the bus on the way home. She has forgot to put items in her bag since then, but hasn't actually forgotten the bag again.</p><p> </p><p>LDM- It's funny you mention difficult child's desk. I had the pleasure of "exploring" Duckie's desk on Parent Night. There were crumpled papers, her toolbox was dumped out, folders were slid inside other folders, etc. I also picked out her locker while walking down the hall... it was the only one with stuff hanging out of it. We're fortunate that her school mandates every student have a binder that is, in essence, much as you describe. Keeping Duckie on a schedule has always been a challenge... it's like she runs on a 25 or 26 hour day rather than 24 like the rest of us.</p><p> </p><p>Shari- I hope Duckie gets it quickly... I really don't want her to be discouraged. I talked to her a little bit tonight, told her how I really thought that her learning these new skills will only improve her life and make her happier. She seemed a little intrigued but we'll see.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="tiredmommy, post: 385733, member: 1722"] Thanks everyone. Jena- that's too funny about the mirror! CM- While I generally agree with taking away privileges when a child isn't doing the necessary things, I'm also concerned that she's digging a pretty deep hole for herself. She was already grounded, and realistically, she's taking so long on homework that she really doesn't have much down time. So I ended her grounding a day early and let her play with bff. Just because. ML- We're fortunate that every student in Duckie's school has a take home binder and agenda. Which is great if she actually remembers to bring stuff home... Janet- I spoke a little more in depth with Duckie's teacher this morning, gave her a very limited history outlining that it's really been a continual problem. She said that she'll keep a closer eye for the next few weeks and let me know if she thinks I should pursue another evaluation. She said she has seen kids with worse time management and organization skills but conceded that an involved parent making sure everything at least gets in her bag could mask a lot of problems. She hopes that some simple behavior modification and check-ins will bring about a noticeable improvement. I hope so too because I'd hate to put Duckie through an evaluation if she doesn't need it. Lisa- I have done the "walk-through-the-house-with-a-trash-bag" thing and it does work. But it feels different this time. She hasn't really had a chance to leave her toys laying around, it's more homework, laundry and dishes. KTMom- Duckie already knows I won't bring stuff to school. I've only retrieved something from school once, when she was crying that she left her bag. She was supposed to do a practice math test for state testing and was just beside herself on the bus on the way home. She has forgot to put items in her bag since then, but hasn't actually forgotten the bag again. LDM- It's funny you mention difficult child's desk. I had the pleasure of "exploring" Duckie's desk on Parent Night. There were crumpled papers, her toolbox was dumped out, folders were slid inside other folders, etc. I also picked out her locker while walking down the hall... it was the only one with stuff hanging out of it. We're fortunate that her school mandates every student have a binder that is, in essence, much as you describe. Keeping Duckie on a schedule has always been a challenge... it's like she runs on a 25 or 26 hour day rather than 24 like the rest of us. Shari- I hope Duckie gets it quickly... I really don't want her to be discouraged. I talked to her a little bit tonight, told her how I really thought that her learning these new skills will only improve her life and make her happier. She seemed a little intrigued but we'll see. [/QUOTE]
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