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I have read many posts of those who have had to call the police or have difficult child removed from home due to violence, physical abuse, etc... but what can I do about my difficult child who is guilty of verbal abuse and harrasment especially towards husband and younger sibling?
The second difficult child gets angry or annoyed at younger easy child (which happens frequently because easy child is a typical annoying 6 yr old little brother), he becomes out of control. He starts screaming at easy child by getting right in his face nose to nose, chasing after him saying he is going to hurt him although he doesn't but invades his personal space by pressing his body up against easy child and not letting him move. difficult child can't let go of what easy child did that bothered him and even when easy child moves on, difficult child continues to bother him by standing in front of him and blocking his view of TV, grabbing anything he may be playing with out of his hands or even just ruining anything easy child is trying to play with. If easy child goes into another room and locks the door to get away, difficult child chases after him and bangs on the door screaming to open it.
easy child is a tough little kid and has no problem going toe to toe with difficult child which of course makes things worse but difficult child brings easy child to tears of fear and frustration more times than I care to think about. It breaks my heart that easy child has to deal with this.
I of course do all I can to stop difficult child, including putting my hands on him to pull him away or getting between the 2 of them but difficult child just keeps at it until easy child and I can get away and just let difficult child bang on door until he gets tired or gives up. It is a horrible way to live and I fear for my easy child mental health. It is not fair to him! When husband gets involved, it is actually worse. The minute husband steps in difficult child starts screaming at the top of his lungs to "shut up", "don't talk to me", etc... husband is a big strong guy and he is able to hold difficult child until easy child moves away.
Our home is a war zone a number of times a day. But yet, about 30 minutes after is blows over, difficult child is back to his sweet, loving self. It's like Dr. Jeckyl and Mr. Hyde. Freaky, scary, not fair.... By the way, difficult child is a great student in 6th grade middle school who is on the high honor role, gets wonderful comments from teachers, participates in multiple sports teams, clubs,participated in communtiy service toy drive for the holidays, etc... to the outside world, everything appears wonderful but not so in our home personal life! What can we do ? Why can't difficult child be the same person he is in school?? Any advice would be great.
Jan
The second difficult child gets angry or annoyed at younger easy child (which happens frequently because easy child is a typical annoying 6 yr old little brother), he becomes out of control. He starts screaming at easy child by getting right in his face nose to nose, chasing after him saying he is going to hurt him although he doesn't but invades his personal space by pressing his body up against easy child and not letting him move. difficult child can't let go of what easy child did that bothered him and even when easy child moves on, difficult child continues to bother him by standing in front of him and blocking his view of TV, grabbing anything he may be playing with out of his hands or even just ruining anything easy child is trying to play with. If easy child goes into another room and locks the door to get away, difficult child chases after him and bangs on the door screaming to open it.
easy child is a tough little kid and has no problem going toe to toe with difficult child which of course makes things worse but difficult child brings easy child to tears of fear and frustration more times than I care to think about. It breaks my heart that easy child has to deal with this.
I of course do all I can to stop difficult child, including putting my hands on him to pull him away or getting between the 2 of them but difficult child just keeps at it until easy child and I can get away and just let difficult child bang on door until he gets tired or gives up. It is a horrible way to live and I fear for my easy child mental health. It is not fair to him! When husband gets involved, it is actually worse. The minute husband steps in difficult child starts screaming at the top of his lungs to "shut up", "don't talk to me", etc... husband is a big strong guy and he is able to hold difficult child until easy child moves away.
Our home is a war zone a number of times a day. But yet, about 30 minutes after is blows over, difficult child is back to his sweet, loving self. It's like Dr. Jeckyl and Mr. Hyde. Freaky, scary, not fair.... By the way, difficult child is a great student in 6th grade middle school who is on the high honor role, gets wonderful comments from teachers, participates in multiple sports teams, clubs,participated in communtiy service toy drive for the holidays, etc... to the outside world, everything appears wonderful but not so in our home personal life! What can we do ? Why can't difficult child be the same person he is in school?? Any advice would be great.
Jan