Hello everyone. I have a dilemma and am hoping for some opinions on how to handle this situation. As most of you know my daughter is on the run with a bench warrant and now bail jumping charges added to her case. (stole my credit card) Some of you might remember that I had seen her at the laundry mat and that she looked wonderful and the meeting was good. Since then she has been calling me and my sister every few days. She went from wanting to turn herself in to absolutely refusing to turn herself in. Then I was getting phone calls with her telling me she was in CA and PA and then CT. All lies. I know she is somewhere in the Bronx. She is still saying that she works in a bar serving drinks. Don't believe that for a minute! Anyway, she called my sister the other day and gave her her cell phone number. Asked her not to give it to me. Now, here's my dilemma. My first thoughts were, I don't even want the number as I do not want to be the one to turn her in. I feel as though I can't know too much because if I do then I become held accountable for knowing her whereabouts. My sw and I agree that we should do as little as possible at this point to find her. She wants me to stay out of it as much as possible and just allow my daughter to deal with her natural consequences. She wants me to stay as detached as possible. Which is actually the way I want it as well. I have always been the "bad guy" and now that she is of age, I would much rather her deal with her life on her own so this way she has no one to blame but herself. At the same time I feel as though I should get that number and give it to the dectective who calls every so often to find out if we know anything. I just feel irresponsible in not doing so. I feel good about my sister knowing the number this way we have a way of contacting her. My sister is not the one who has to go to court and deal with the DA, so her knowing the cell number is not as bad as me knowing it. Ya know? And if I chose to give the number to the authorities then my fear would be that my daughter would not trust my sister any longer and we would lost our connection to her. She feels comfortable talking to my sister and has a certain trust for her. I don't want to ruin that at all. I think it is very important for her to be able to contact my sister whenever she needs to. If she finds out that my sister gave me the number she wouldn't trust her anymore. And if God forbid something bad happens I want her to be able to go to sister for help. What do I do?????