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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 380823" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Some suggestions for you.</p><p></p><p>1) Problems with teach #3 seem to be predictable. I would suspect there is fault on both sides. If difficult child is working well with other teachers, then why should there be a problem with this one? I would be working to help difficult child to learn to behave appropriately, but I suspect Teach #3 needs to also get some pointers on how to manage difficult child. I would be very suspicious of just how much Teach#3 is inadvertently triggering difficult child.</p><p></p><p>2) Make the punishment fit the crime. Regardless of whether Teach #3 has triggered difficult child, he has to learn to not use such language to anybody. So the best punishment, in my view, is to get difficult child to hand-write a letter of apology to Teach#3 and then have him hand-deliver it. That will be harder than any other punishment you can give him, and it is as appropriate as you can get it. He would probably paint ten fences and do the washing up for a year than write one letter of apology!</p><p></p><p>3) While on suspension, or any other time home from school, one rule a over all others - "school work during school hours". Being at home instead of at school should never be preferable. He needs to know that schoolwork continues and will be done. So get copies of the worksheets everyone else is doing, make him do them at home and then hand them in to the teacher. Find other work for him to do as well, to keep him occupied with learning. Maybe get him to write a report on something relevant to a current school topic. This has to be schoolwork, not punishment. Never use work as punishment, but also, never use suspension as a holiday. If he complains about you using the work to punish, make it clear - this is not punishment. This is education.</p><p></p><p>I don't think, with all of this, that you will need to add in anything more as punishment.</p><p></p><p>From the sounds of the problem, it is possible that difficult child's assessment of Teach #3 as a beach is accurate! But it is not appropriate to say so.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 380823, member: 1991"] Some suggestions for you. 1) Problems with teach #3 seem to be predictable. I would suspect there is fault on both sides. If difficult child is working well with other teachers, then why should there be a problem with this one? I would be working to help difficult child to learn to behave appropriately, but I suspect Teach #3 needs to also get some pointers on how to manage difficult child. I would be very suspicious of just how much Teach#3 is inadvertently triggering difficult child. 2) Make the punishment fit the crime. Regardless of whether Teach #3 has triggered difficult child, he has to learn to not use such language to anybody. So the best punishment, in my view, is to get difficult child to hand-write a letter of apology to Teach#3 and then have him hand-deliver it. That will be harder than any other punishment you can give him, and it is as appropriate as you can get it. He would probably paint ten fences and do the washing up for a year than write one letter of apology! 3) While on suspension, or any other time home from school, one rule a over all others - "school work during school hours". Being at home instead of at school should never be preferable. He needs to know that schoolwork continues and will be done. So get copies of the worksheets everyone else is doing, make him do them at home and then hand them in to the teacher. Find other work for him to do as well, to keep him occupied with learning. Maybe get him to write a report on something relevant to a current school topic. This has to be schoolwork, not punishment. Never use work as punishment, but also, never use suspension as a holiday. If he complains about you using the work to punish, make it clear - this is not punishment. This is education. I don't think, with all of this, that you will need to add in anything more as punishment. From the sounds of the problem, it is possible that difficult child's assessment of Teach #3 as a beach is accurate! But it is not appropriate to say so. Marg [/QUOTE]
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