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What do you do when difficult child is pushing your buttons?
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<blockquote data-quote="fosterparent" data-source="post: 148626" data-attributes="member: 2582"><p>Big hugs for you. I have twin 11 year old g'sfg with learning disabilities (speech issues, dyslexia, dysgraphia, as well as ADHD/Mood Disorder and ADD, respectively). I used to spend hours every evening "doing" homework. It got so bad that they were bringing the papers to me and going to get a snack waiting for me to do it. It was a huge source of frustration for all of us. My husband (even though a lot better in math) just didn't do homework. His philosphy was it is their homework and their responsibility. So-- I finally put the responsibility of "doing" homework on them. They are allowed 1-1/2 hours per evening. After that, they've pretty much lost the focus and it's impossible anyway. I've explained to their teachers my rules and my reasons. That is the way it is. I of course look it over and yes sometimes on really bad days, they have been at it for 40 minutes and may have just their name and date on the page, but they have to go to school and explain why that homework was not done. I have and do explain pretty much on a daily basis how important education is if you want to do anything in life. They also know that even if they don't immediately tackle homework when they get home from school, there is no tv, no outside, no video games, etc. until the homework is done or at least attempted. You have to pick your battles to keep your sanity. Please know you are NOT alone.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="fosterparent, post: 148626, member: 2582"] Big hugs for you. I have twin 11 year old g'sfg with learning disabilities (speech issues, dyslexia, dysgraphia, as well as ADHD/Mood Disorder and ADD, respectively). I used to spend hours every evening "doing" homework. It got so bad that they were bringing the papers to me and going to get a snack waiting for me to do it. It was a huge source of frustration for all of us. My husband (even though a lot better in math) just didn't do homework. His philosphy was it is their homework and their responsibility. So-- I finally put the responsibility of "doing" homework on them. They are allowed 1-1/2 hours per evening. After that, they've pretty much lost the focus and it's impossible anyway. I've explained to their teachers my rules and my reasons. That is the way it is. I of course look it over and yes sometimes on really bad days, they have been at it for 40 minutes and may have just their name and date on the page, but they have to go to school and explain why that homework was not done. I have and do explain pretty much on a daily basis how important education is if you want to do anything in life. They also know that even if they don't immediately tackle homework when they get home from school, there is no tv, no outside, no video games, etc. until the homework is done or at least attempted. You have to pick your battles to keep your sanity. Please know you are NOT alone. [/QUOTE]
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