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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 286765" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Witz</p><p> </p><p>I wouldn't say or do anything........uh maybe just bob your head and say "That's nice dear." or some such. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/tongue.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":tongue:" title="tongue :tongue:" data-shortname=":tongue:" /></p><p> </p><p>At this point, she's not ready to listen, not ready to see the truth. Her thinking may be skewed. Very possible. She may be one who "enjoys the chase". Penty of men do this..........but there are women who do it too. Sort of a subconcious thing. They just got to have them while the "chase is on" but once they have them.....they don't know what to do with them.</p><p> </p><p>This is something she's going to have to figure out on her own for the most part. If she comes out and asks you.....you might be able to steer her into a better position to figure it out......but otherwise, I'd leave it alone.</p><p> </p><p>If she defends either of their positions....she'll just dig in her heels. And it will take longer for her to see that she's getting nowhere.</p><p> </p><p>I look at Nichole and boyfriend, and I wonder what in the world makes her want to be with him. But I keep my mouth shut unless she specifically asks my opinion. (then I word it carefully) </p><p> </p><p>It took me more than 15 yrs to really <strong>get</strong> that husband is incapable of truly loving another person, that the universe is supposed to revolved solely around him. I listened to what others told me, but I didn't hear them. It wasn't even that I thought I could change him. I just loved him and thought that would be enough.</p><p> </p><p>I keep that in mind when dealing with Nichole and boyfriend. Helps me hold my tongue and to stop wanting to shake some sense into her.</p><p> </p><p>((hugs))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 286765, member: 84"] Witz I wouldn't say or do anything........uh maybe just bob your head and say "That's nice dear." or some such. :raspberry-tounge: At this point, she's not ready to listen, not ready to see the truth. Her thinking may be skewed. Very possible. She may be one who "enjoys the chase". Penty of men do this..........but there are women who do it too. Sort of a subconcious thing. They just got to have them while the "chase is on" but once they have them.....they don't know what to do with them. This is something she's going to have to figure out on her own for the most part. If she comes out and asks you.....you might be able to steer her into a better position to figure it out......but otherwise, I'd leave it alone. If she defends either of their positions....she'll just dig in her heels. And it will take longer for her to see that she's getting nowhere. I look at Nichole and boyfriend, and I wonder what in the world makes her want to be with him. But I keep my mouth shut unless she specifically asks my opinion. (then I word it carefully) It took me more than 15 yrs to really [B]get[/B] that husband is incapable of truly loving another person, that the universe is supposed to revolved solely around him. I listened to what others told me, but I didn't hear them. It wasn't even that I thought I could change him. I just loved him and thought that would be enough. I keep that in mind when dealing with Nichole and boyfriend. Helps me hold my tongue and to stop wanting to shake some sense into her. ((hugs)) [/QUOTE]
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