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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 286947" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>Unfortunately her dad is a domestic relations attorney so he knows how quickly he would lose his license and everything he had if he hit the guy. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite4" alt=":mad:" title="Mad :mad:" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":mad:" /> I'm really waiting to see what the result of L & boyfriend's talk is.</p><p></p><p>First, she will never <em>ever</em> admit that there is anything wrong with her relationship with boyfriend. Remember, it wasn't her that called her dad, it was boyfriend that called him. She wouldn't have told a soul, or if she had, it would be much later on with a very well crafted story. She won't ever come to anyone with a problem because she sees that as admitting failure. Her dad used to call her "Little Miss Can't Be Wrong", after the song, and it's not just an accurate description, it's an obsession.</p><p></p><p>I told her the last time that he threw her out that she was much better than that, that it was time for her to figure out how to take care of herself in a way that would never her leave her at the mercy of a man who doesn't want to share his life with her. She thanked me and told me I was so sweet to believe in her and immediately started dating a bunch of losers on match.com.</p><p></p><p>I will take the earliest opportunity to talk to her about the realities of life when you have a degenerative disease like we do. She may even find a man who wants to share his life with her, but without being married and a real commitment, if he gets hit by a car tomorrow, she is out on the street with nothing. She needs a skill that doesn't leave her at someone else's mercy, and she's perfectly capable of it. As far as I'm concerned, him kicking her out or hitting her is the same as him dropping dead. It leaves L with nothing and nowhere to go. If her dad knows that she is going back, he must be furious. I'll let him deal with the straight in the eye talk about how little she is making of herself. I'll go with the building up.</p><p></p><p>One last thought is that her sister, who would NEVER put up with this and will give her the straight talk, is a source I might reach out to. L is such a liar, everyone must be getting a different story. I think we need to work together on this. Knowledge is key to keeping her from weaving a story that lets her lie to herself about what this is.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 286947, member: 99"] Unfortunately her dad is a domestic relations attorney so he knows how quickly he would lose his license and everything he had if he hit the guy. :mad: I'm really waiting to see what the result of L & boyfriend's talk is. First, she will never [I]ever[/I] admit that there is anything wrong with her relationship with boyfriend. Remember, it wasn't her that called her dad, it was boyfriend that called him. She wouldn't have told a soul, or if she had, it would be much later on with a very well crafted story. She won't ever come to anyone with a problem because she sees that as admitting failure. Her dad used to call her "Little Miss Can't Be Wrong", after the song, and it's not just an accurate description, it's an obsession. I told her the last time that he threw her out that she was much better than that, that it was time for her to figure out how to take care of herself in a way that would never her leave her at the mercy of a man who doesn't want to share his life with her. She thanked me and told me I was so sweet to believe in her and immediately started dating a bunch of losers on match.com. I will take the earliest opportunity to talk to her about the realities of life when you have a degenerative disease like we do. She may even find a man who wants to share his life with her, but without being married and a real commitment, if he gets hit by a car tomorrow, she is out on the street with nothing. She needs a skill that doesn't leave her at someone else's mercy, and she's perfectly capable of it. As far as I'm concerned, him kicking her out or hitting her is the same as him dropping dead. It leaves L with nothing and nowhere to go. If her dad knows that she is going back, he must be furious. I'll let him deal with the straight in the eye talk about how little she is making of herself. I'll go with the building up. One last thought is that her sister, who would NEVER put up with this and will give her the straight talk, is a source I might reach out to. L is such a liar, everyone must be getting a different story. I think we need to work together on this. Knowledge is key to keeping her from weaving a story that lets her lie to herself about what this is. [/QUOTE]
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