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<blockquote data-quote="HopeRemains" data-source="post: 574215" data-attributes="member: 14139"><p>TeDo- Thank you, that's great advice. When it comes up again, that is how I will approach it, though if husband gets wind of me saying difficult child is "sick" he will likely be ticked off. Oh well... can't keep everyone happy, right? I'll have to think about how to phrase it. </p><p></p><p>I have videos of difficult child's rages, him saying he feels like killing himself, screaming hateful things, punching walls, banging his head into the wall, etc... I have the email I wrote to difficult child's therapist when I found out that he told easy child he was going to kill him when he's sleeping with a knife. I'm sure a police report exists from when I called them last summer when difficult child was hitting me. There was a CPS case against me (thanks biomom), that was unfounded, but I don't think that would really do anything- but difficult child has tried to inflict harm on himself and threatened to tell biomom that I did it recently (He caught on to the fact that he might be able to get me into trouble with that other CPS incident and I have no doubt that he would have eventually got me into some trouble in the future.)</p><p></p><p>Buddy- It may be very naieve of me to think that we may be able to have a good parenting relationship forever, but I've seen it done. (Seen many more where it didn't work well, too.) So when I imagine us in the future, I see us both living in different houses, but still possibly going out to dinner with the kids, going to family birthday parties, etc. </p><p></p><p>husband is a strange one... he knows that I've been unhappy out here for years and years. I told him not so long ago that I wasn't in love with him and that I wanted to move away. He acts as though I never said it- just like he always seems to forget every greivance I've ever brought up that doesn't fit in with how he thinks things should be. He ignores the bad stuff. There are multiple levels to why I am just done, but right now he is focusing on difficult child's behaviors so that he doesn't have to look in the mirror and say it's because he's controlling, etc. Not that he's being upset with difficult child that I've seen. When I get my head a little more together, we will have the talk about why I have to get my own place and I will not let him escape or use difficult child as the ONLY factor in this. Over the years I have had this talk with him SO many times and nothing has changed, but this time I have some resolve and family supporting me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HopeRemains, post: 574215, member: 14139"] TeDo- Thank you, that's great advice. When it comes up again, that is how I will approach it, though if husband gets wind of me saying difficult child is "sick" he will likely be ticked off. Oh well... can't keep everyone happy, right? I'll have to think about how to phrase it. I have videos of difficult child's rages, him saying he feels like killing himself, screaming hateful things, punching walls, banging his head into the wall, etc... I have the email I wrote to difficult child's therapist when I found out that he told easy child he was going to kill him when he's sleeping with a knife. I'm sure a police report exists from when I called them last summer when difficult child was hitting me. There was a CPS case against me (thanks biomom), that was unfounded, but I don't think that would really do anything- but difficult child has tried to inflict harm on himself and threatened to tell biomom that I did it recently (He caught on to the fact that he might be able to get me into trouble with that other CPS incident and I have no doubt that he would have eventually got me into some trouble in the future.) Buddy- It may be very naieve of me to think that we may be able to have a good parenting relationship forever, but I've seen it done. (Seen many more where it didn't work well, too.) So when I imagine us in the future, I see us both living in different houses, but still possibly going out to dinner with the kids, going to family birthday parties, etc. husband is a strange one... he knows that I've been unhappy out here for years and years. I told him not so long ago that I wasn't in love with him and that I wanted to move away. He acts as though I never said it- just like he always seems to forget every greivance I've ever brought up that doesn't fit in with how he thinks things should be. He ignores the bad stuff. There are multiple levels to why I am just done, but right now he is focusing on difficult child's behaviors so that he doesn't have to look in the mirror and say it's because he's controlling, etc. Not that he's being upset with difficult child that I've seen. When I get my head a little more together, we will have the talk about why I have to get my own place and I will not let him escape or use difficult child as the ONLY factor in this. Over the years I have had this talk with him SO many times and nothing has changed, but this time I have some resolve and family supporting me. [/QUOTE]
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