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<blockquote data-quote="firehorsewoman" data-source="post: 574348" data-attributes="member: 15804"><p>I agree with others that the best approach to what to tell a easy child is the illness/sickness explanation and explain the difference between this and the "bad guy" idea. In my case, because my difficult child developed epilepsy at 2 years of age and most of his seizures were partial complex which would include strange behavior, not be able to talk, walking into walls, hospital stays, etc we told my easy child at that time that her brother had a problem with his brain. She even would help us by coming to get us if he couldn't talk etc. So as his behavior problems took over as his main illness she was already accustomed to difficult child having a brain problem, we just explained more as she got older. I always made sure that they both understood that there was no difference between a brain problem and a kidney problem like easy child was born with. They are just different parts of the body. Having a problem in one part of the body doesn't make you bad. I wanted from a young age to protect difficult child from the stigma at least in our own family. I point out to them that we all take medicine for different things (that works for us because we all do take daily medicine) and it doesn't make difficult child strange or bad.</p><p></p><p>That all being said, it is quite hard when easy child is the victim of attacks and aggression. My easy child has at times been difficult child's main focus of aggression and irritation so I understand just how hard this can be. You are doing the right thing by protecting your much younger easy child.</p><p></p><p>In regards to the other part of your post: Attorney, attorney, attorney. A good one. Find the money. Don't make the same mistake I made. I will leave it at that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="firehorsewoman, post: 574348, member: 15804"] I agree with others that the best approach to what to tell a easy child is the illness/sickness explanation and explain the difference between this and the "bad guy" idea. In my case, because my difficult child developed epilepsy at 2 years of age and most of his seizures were partial complex which would include strange behavior, not be able to talk, walking into walls, hospital stays, etc we told my easy child at that time that her brother had a problem with his brain. She even would help us by coming to get us if he couldn't talk etc. So as his behavior problems took over as his main illness she was already accustomed to difficult child having a brain problem, we just explained more as she got older. I always made sure that they both understood that there was no difference between a brain problem and a kidney problem like easy child was born with. They are just different parts of the body. Having a problem in one part of the body doesn't make you bad. I wanted from a young age to protect difficult child from the stigma at least in our own family. I point out to them that we all take medicine for different things (that works for us because we all do take daily medicine) and it doesn't make difficult child strange or bad. That all being said, it is quite hard when easy child is the victim of attacks and aggression. My easy child has at times been difficult child's main focus of aggression and irritation so I understand just how hard this can be. You are doing the right thing by protecting your much younger easy child. In regards to the other part of your post: Attorney, attorney, attorney. A good one. Find the money. Don't make the same mistake I made. I will leave it at that. [/QUOTE]
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