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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 421907" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Hound, </p><p> </p><p>I think what everyone may not remember is that right now? HE has NO responsibilities like he had. NO yelling kids, NO one looking over his shoulder asking him if he's looking for a job - he has job washing dishes part time and having to have that job has made him mad, and he wants paid back for it. He figures he's OWED the money - so he's getting Katie to pay him back - he shouldn't have to pay Child support - So he's "doing" his part to keep up appearances so SHE and the kids can "get'' the apartment. Would bet you anything he's made her feel guilty HE has to sleep at a shelter while they sleep in a really nice condo. </p><p> </p><p> However - He has a place to stay, food to eat, and doesn't have to worry WHERE his family is going to sleep, HOW to feed them, HOW to cloth them, HOW they're going to get to school, WHO is going to have to watch them. For him - life just got a WHOLE lot easier. He SEEs this, but he has to make SOMEONE feel bad for his new found fortune. So what does he do? He can sneak over to Katies, get money, have sex, sneak out make her and the kids feel bad for him - and you know and I know she will give him both - and then he's gone - back to his 20 hour a week job - where he does the bare minimum to get by - turns his check over jokingly to pay child support - and then GOES BACK TO KATIE - to get it back. </p><p> </p><p>This must seem like the biggest ha ha in the world to him. If he is sneaking over there to her? He has got it golden - no kids, no responsibilities, and a job that pays him to work, plus the state is paying HIM to have a kid that has problems, and KEEPING his wife and family. </p><p> </p><p>And no one sees that he wouldn't be able to think this on his own, and explain it in terms to Katie that makes it seem like it's ALL unfair that they AREN'T together as a "F.A.M.I.L.Y." - ???? there's not a stupid bone in his body - lazy, worthless....kniving.....but stupid? I'll bet you a dollar - he figured this out way before we did. </p><p> </p><p> </p><p>So yeah if it were me? The next time I was there and red flags went up? I'd call his bluff and I'd report him......and I'd expose the whole shambles before the kids get too used to a nice life. Because maybe if <strong><u>he</u></strong> were out NOW? Something could be done to save the place for her and the kids. </p><p> </p><p>If this isnt' what is going on - he'll figure it out soon enough - or SOMEONE he's in that mens shelter with will figure it out FOR him. And you can take me to the Bank on this one Hound - if I had done all for them that YOU had? You can bet your sweet white corn the next time I thought someone was in that house hiding? I'd be up her stairs like the Flash, and all over him like white on rice. You may as well - you're already in this more than you wanted to be anyway. Especially if he's afraid of your big husband like you say and you? I'd hit speed dial so fast my fingers would turn into charcoal. </p><p> </p><p>Sorry to be the teller of what I think - and it's certainly not because I think he's a genius - I just think he's a manipulative wart on a toads hiney. </p><p> </p><p>Her? My jury is still out only because I think she's somewhere between non-physical battered wife syndrome and PTSD - but I'd give anything for her to get into DV counseling and STAY there about 20 years.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 421907, member: 4964"] Hound, I think what everyone may not remember is that right now? HE has NO responsibilities like he had. NO yelling kids, NO one looking over his shoulder asking him if he's looking for a job - he has job washing dishes part time and having to have that job has made him mad, and he wants paid back for it. He figures he's OWED the money - so he's getting Katie to pay him back - he shouldn't have to pay Child support - So he's "doing" his part to keep up appearances so SHE and the kids can "get'' the apartment. Would bet you anything he's made her feel guilty HE has to sleep at a shelter while they sleep in a really nice condo. However - He has a place to stay, food to eat, and doesn't have to worry WHERE his family is going to sleep, HOW to feed them, HOW to cloth them, HOW they're going to get to school, WHO is going to have to watch them. For him - life just got a WHOLE lot easier. He SEEs this, but he has to make SOMEONE feel bad for his new found fortune. So what does he do? He can sneak over to Katies, get money, have sex, sneak out make her and the kids feel bad for him - and you know and I know she will give him both - and then he's gone - back to his 20 hour a week job - where he does the bare minimum to get by - turns his check over jokingly to pay child support - and then GOES BACK TO KATIE - to get it back. This must seem like the biggest ha ha in the world to him. If he is sneaking over there to her? He has got it golden - no kids, no responsibilities, and a job that pays him to work, plus the state is paying HIM to have a kid that has problems, and KEEPING his wife and family. And no one sees that he wouldn't be able to think this on his own, and explain it in terms to Katie that makes it seem like it's ALL unfair that they AREN'T together as a "F.A.M.I.L.Y." - ???? there's not a stupid bone in his body - lazy, worthless....kniving.....but stupid? I'll bet you a dollar - he figured this out way before we did. So yeah if it were me? The next time I was there and red flags went up? I'd call his bluff and I'd report him......and I'd expose the whole shambles before the kids get too used to a nice life. Because maybe if [B][U]he[/U][/B] were out NOW? Something could be done to save the place for her and the kids. If this isnt' what is going on - he'll figure it out soon enough - or SOMEONE he's in that mens shelter with will figure it out FOR him. And you can take me to the Bank on this one Hound - if I had done all for them that YOU had? You can bet your sweet white corn the next time I thought someone was in that house hiding? I'd be up her stairs like the Flash, and all over him like white on rice. You may as well - you're already in this more than you wanted to be anyway. Especially if he's afraid of your big husband like you say and you? I'd hit speed dial so fast my fingers would turn into charcoal. Sorry to be the teller of what I think - and it's certainly not because I think he's a genius - I just think he's a manipulative wart on a toads hiney. Her? My jury is still out only because I think she's somewhere between non-physical battered wife syndrome and PTSD - but I'd give anything for her to get into DV counseling and STAY there about 20 years. [/QUOTE]
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