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What does it mean when a child blatantly steals from you?
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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 517760"><p>I agree with the others. You need to take this seriously. You should NOT live like a prisoner in your own home. This is so very sad, and I understand your anguish. Just some ideas to consider:</p><p>Are you paying for anything for him? For example, his cell phone? I would consider making drug testing a part of the deal. He takes the drug test and gets a clean result and then you will continue paying for his phone. If he has one (and definately more than one) positive test (s), you might consider looking for a drug rehab facility and take away his phone until his tests are clean. I also agree that you should lock your money in a lock box, keep it in a safe place in your room and then lock your bedroom door. Keep your key on your person. He should not be allowed anywhere near your valuables. Protect your purse at all times. I would set a time limit for him to get a job or go to school to get some kind of training. I would also tell him that if he steals from you a grand total of one more time, you will call the police and you will take measures to have him removed from the home. If he steals from you again, take immediate action. He has abused the privlege of living at home and you would have given him fair warning. Should he steal, call the police, press charges and find out what you need to do to evict him from the premises. Do you have any relatives or family friends that can help you in this? Make sure you have mature, adult support. Try to stay unemotional. If he is open to it, you might offer to send him to a therapist for counseling. If he goes, make sure you pay the counselor directly. Make sure you get support for YOURSELF...either a counselor, good books about setting boundaries with adult children and/or the good groups out there like Families Anonymous or Codependents Anonymous. Hang in there!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 517760"] I agree with the others. You need to take this seriously. You should NOT live like a prisoner in your own home. This is so very sad, and I understand your anguish. Just some ideas to consider: Are you paying for anything for him? For example, his cell phone? I would consider making drug testing a part of the deal. He takes the drug test and gets a clean result and then you will continue paying for his phone. If he has one (and definately more than one) positive test (s), you might consider looking for a drug rehab facility and take away his phone until his tests are clean. I also agree that you should lock your money in a lock box, keep it in a safe place in your room and then lock your bedroom door. Keep your key on your person. He should not be allowed anywhere near your valuables. Protect your purse at all times. I would set a time limit for him to get a job or go to school to get some kind of training. I would also tell him that if he steals from you a grand total of one more time, you will call the police and you will take measures to have him removed from the home. If he steals from you again, take immediate action. He has abused the privlege of living at home and you would have given him fair warning. Should he steal, call the police, press charges and find out what you need to do to evict him from the premises. Do you have any relatives or family friends that can help you in this? Make sure you have mature, adult support. Try to stay unemotional. If he is open to it, you might offer to send him to a therapist for counseling. If he goes, make sure you pay the counselor directly. Make sure you get support for YOURSELF...either a counselor, good books about setting boundaries with adult children and/or the good groups out there like Families Anonymous or Codependents Anonymous. Hang in there! [/QUOTE]
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