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What does it mean when a child blatantly steals from you?
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<blockquote data-quote="JillS" data-source="post: 517775" data-attributes="member: 14237"><p>Thank you all for the sage advice - so glad I found this forum! As I type he is inside sleeping his life away {sigh}. I could just bust in there and wake him up military style though all that will do is create more tension. I just lost my father a month ago and am in graduate school so really need to keep an even keel emotionally. I think a lot of the time my "keeping the peace" it's just making things worse in the long run. I'm slowly trying to detach. I will sometimes leave for days at a time (yes, I run away from home!) and stay at a friend's apartment - I have peace during those times, but also an inner fear of what I will come back home to. I call those his "fend" days - he has to fend for himself, but so far it's not made him any more responsible. I just return to a dirty apartment. His father won't come and get him (his motto was "you bear 'em you take care of 'em) and other family members won't have him as he is now. My mother once offered to let him live with her at her home upstate if he would attend the cooking school up there (he once expressed an interest in culinary arts) but he's so flaky about everything she rescinded the offer. My brother in California also will take him IF he is in school and working - nice offers, but if he was doing all that I'd have no problem with him living at home with me. It really does take a village to raise a child but alas I am a village of one and my son is the village idiot. His lying and stealing (followed always by false charm and promises) is making it easier to pull away. I used to think my son was a good person at heart, but now his veneer of "charm" makes me think he is psycho. Right now I'm just going to work on myself - pray, chant and meditate so I can stop enabling then let the chips fall where they may.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JillS, post: 517775, member: 14237"] Thank you all for the sage advice - so glad I found this forum! As I type he is inside sleeping his life away {sigh}. I could just bust in there and wake him up military style though all that will do is create more tension. I just lost my father a month ago and am in graduate school so really need to keep an even keel emotionally. I think a lot of the time my "keeping the peace" it's just making things worse in the long run. I'm slowly trying to detach. I will sometimes leave for days at a time (yes, I run away from home!) and stay at a friend's apartment - I have peace during those times, but also an inner fear of what I will come back home to. I call those his "fend" days - he has to fend for himself, but so far it's not made him any more responsible. I just return to a dirty apartment. His father won't come and get him (his motto was "you bear 'em you take care of 'em) and other family members won't have him as he is now. My mother once offered to let him live with her at her home upstate if he would attend the cooking school up there (he once expressed an interest in culinary arts) but he's so flaky about everything she rescinded the offer. My brother in California also will take him IF he is in school and working - nice offers, but if he was doing all that I'd have no problem with him living at home with me. It really does take a village to raise a child but alas I am a village of one and my son is the village idiot. His lying and stealing (followed always by false charm and promises) is making it easier to pull away. I used to think my son was a good person at heart, but now his veneer of "charm" makes me think he is psycho. Right now I'm just going to work on myself - pray, chant and meditate so I can stop enabling then let the chips fall where they may. [/QUOTE]
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