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<blockquote data-quote="WSM" data-source="post: 307214" data-attributes="member: 5169"><p>Okay, it was easier than I expected. </p><p> </p><p>Nobody from the advocates office ever called back. But the CPS lady did. She said someone else was handling this incident, and she was out of town for the week. She said she was aware of the situation that happened and was very glad we got out. The new CPS lady would certainly want to talk to me when she gets back from vacation. She sounded glad I called.</p><p> </p><p>I didn't sleep well. At court there was a hallway for the petitioners to sit in, and an adjacent hallway for defendants. I was there first. He walked around the corner. A few minutes later a lawyer appeared. A $520 an hour lawyer. </p><p> </p><p>Anyway, he came over to make a deal with me. He wanted me to drop the RO in favor of giving me exclusive use of the house. I said I want a piece of paper saying husband had to stay away from me and the kids. He kept saying 'that's what exclusive use of the house is.'</p><p> </p><p>Well, I fell for that in my first divorce. If ex shows up with your address on the license and his name on the title the cops will let him in the house, even with an exclusive use of the house clause if you are still married. been there done that. So it was resolved with the RO being extended until Oct 15. husband had filed for divorce altho I haven't been served yet and that's the court date for our first divorce hearing. The divorce judge will then determine whether to make the RO permenant for a year or forever, which s/he will never do.</p><p> </p><p>I agreed, I already was pretty sure that that's all today's judge was going to do and I still have an RO for another month.</p><p> </p><p>Sat on the bench some more. Lawyer came back, a bit belligerently. "There's nothing to this divorce. It should be all over in a few weeks. There's nothing to fight about." I agreed. He said it a few times. It occurred to me that husband had emphasized over how I was going to rake him over the coals and steal everything and screw him over. husband had accused me of that several times, but if he actually hired a $520 an hour lawyer, I guess it was more than just accusations, husband believes it. </p><p> </p><p>That's what paranoia will do to you. </p><p> </p><p>The lawyer came back after a minute and said, I was going to have to refinance the house if I wanted it. I said I didn't and had already spoke to a realtor, but in the meantime I expected husband to pay half the mortgage. Lawyer tried to play poor guy with little kids who was struggling to support them. I pointed out that was something he should have thought about before he went pushing his wife into a frig and that he was legally obligated pay half the mortgage unless a judge said otherwise. Lawyer said rather belligerently: he says it didn't happen. I said, they always say that, don't they? Lawyer went away and came back with the offer that husband would pay a reduced amount. I laughed. Not negotiable. Nor is the equity loan. Only a judge can let husband off the hook on that. Besides husband has $4300 a month in his pocket. He can afford $1690.</p><p> </p><p>Lawyer went away and came back and pointed out that $1250 of husband's income was child support and the judge wasn't going to use that to figure the mortgage payment. I pointed out that husband offered/included CS as income when he signed the mortgage, and it didn't matter, because he signed the mortgage and has to pay it. by the way, he also signed the loan against my retirement, and I wasn't going to bring it up, just repay it myself, but if husband wants to be a butthead... And there are lots of repairs on the house, husband left parts of it a fricking half remodeled mess. He'll have to pay half those too. </p><p> </p><p>Lawyer went away and came back again and asked how long the realtor said the house would take to sell. I said a year to 15 months left as is. Lawyer said husband was willing to let me have all the profit from the sale of the house if he didn't have to make payments. LOL. It's going to short sale for at least $15,000. No deal.</p><p> </p><p>Anyway. Within an hour the judge signed off the paper extending the RO and we were out of there. I didn't have to mention CPS or anything. By the time we left lawyer was relaxed and smiling. He said, this won't take much time, I'll write up the offer this afternoon and send it to your lawyer. </p><p> </p><p>Fine.</p><p> </p><p>husband never came within 100 feet of me. We left and that was that. I can be divorced within a month.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WSM, post: 307214, member: 5169"] Okay, it was easier than I expected. Nobody from the advocates office ever called back. But the CPS lady did. She said someone else was handling this incident, and she was out of town for the week. She said she was aware of the situation that happened and was very glad we got out. The new CPS lady would certainly want to talk to me when she gets back from vacation. She sounded glad I called. I didn't sleep well. At court there was a hallway for the petitioners to sit in, and an adjacent hallway for defendants. I was there first. He walked around the corner. A few minutes later a lawyer appeared. A $520 an hour lawyer. Anyway, he came over to make a deal with me. He wanted me to drop the RO in favor of giving me exclusive use of the house. I said I want a piece of paper saying husband had to stay away from me and the kids. He kept saying 'that's what exclusive use of the house is.' Well, I fell for that in my first divorce. If ex shows up with your address on the license and his name on the title the cops will let him in the house, even with an exclusive use of the house clause if you are still married. been there done that. So it was resolved with the RO being extended until Oct 15. husband had filed for divorce altho I haven't been served yet and that's the court date for our first divorce hearing. The divorce judge will then determine whether to make the RO permenant for a year or forever, which s/he will never do. I agreed, I already was pretty sure that that's all today's judge was going to do and I still have an RO for another month. Sat on the bench some more. Lawyer came back, a bit belligerently. "There's nothing to this divorce. It should be all over in a few weeks. There's nothing to fight about." I agreed. He said it a few times. It occurred to me that husband had emphasized over how I was going to rake him over the coals and steal everything and screw him over. husband had accused me of that several times, but if he actually hired a $520 an hour lawyer, I guess it was more than just accusations, husband believes it. That's what paranoia will do to you. The lawyer came back after a minute and said, I was going to have to refinance the house if I wanted it. I said I didn't and had already spoke to a realtor, but in the meantime I expected husband to pay half the mortgage. Lawyer tried to play poor guy with little kids who was struggling to support them. I pointed out that was something he should have thought about before he went pushing his wife into a frig and that he was legally obligated pay half the mortgage unless a judge said otherwise. Lawyer said rather belligerently: he says it didn't happen. I said, they always say that, don't they? Lawyer went away and came back with the offer that husband would pay a reduced amount. I laughed. Not negotiable. Nor is the equity loan. Only a judge can let husband off the hook on that. Besides husband has $4300 a month in his pocket. He can afford $1690. Lawyer went away and came back and pointed out that $1250 of husband's income was child support and the judge wasn't going to use that to figure the mortgage payment. I pointed out that husband offered/included CS as income when he signed the mortgage, and it didn't matter, because he signed the mortgage and has to pay it. by the way, he also signed the loan against my retirement, and I wasn't going to bring it up, just repay it myself, but if husband wants to be a butthead... And there are lots of repairs on the house, husband left parts of it a fricking half remodeled mess. He'll have to pay half those too. Lawyer went away and came back again and asked how long the realtor said the house would take to sell. I said a year to 15 months left as is. Lawyer said husband was willing to let me have all the profit from the sale of the house if he didn't have to make payments. LOL. It's going to short sale for at least $15,000. No deal. Anyway. Within an hour the judge signed off the paper extending the RO and we were out of there. I didn't have to mention CPS or anything. By the time we left lawyer was relaxed and smiling. He said, this won't take much time, I'll write up the offer this afternoon and send it to your lawyer. Fine. husband never came within 100 feet of me. We left and that was that. I can be divorced within a month. [/QUOTE]
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