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<blockquote data-quote="totoro" data-source="post: 130837" data-attributes="member: 3155"><p>I know my little girl is so much younger, but being someone who was kicked out at 13 and then left at 17... I certainly know the feeling of being a child who has parents who feel "done"...</p><p>I am trying very hard to set up and protect K so I hopefully will never be done... but who knows, </p><p>I am reading the Book, "Crazy" by: Peter Early, and I just finished it, but one section that I marked and went back to, which touches on this... says When Peter is talking to a man who runs an ALF...</p><p></p><p></p><p>*He is asking the director how many chances a man gets to come back after he has murdered someone? The man replies that if he meets the criteria, why wouldn't they take him back? </p><p>Peter asks but he has had 2 chances already, and sure it was because of his medications not working but why risk it? </p><p></p><p>The director asks, "How many chances would you want us to give your son?"</p><p></p><p>He then opens up a drawer and pulls out a sheet of paper with a diagram... with a chart. "All of us are alone" it says.</p><p>He says "As each of us are confronted with our own complexity, then we are simultaneously confronted with the reality of our aloneness and isolation, to avoid being alone, human beings seek out relationships with others, either individually-as friends and lovers-or in families or by joining gangs, neighborhoods, clubs, or religious groups. The question then becomes, Where does the chronic mentally ill adult felony offender fit? Nowhere..."</p><p></p><p>No group will accept him or her willingly into membership. They are the most isolated. The director goes on to say that at his ALF that they never run out of Chances... </p><p></p><p></p><p>I think this can be said for a lot of our G'sFG as well. Mentally Ill or not. </p><p></p><p>I am not saying this is an option for all of us, nor should it be, when your child is making a choice... or when you can't do it anymore. </p><p>But this man's words really had an impact on me...</p><p>He also made a point of the fact that the clients had to want it also... they had to try. </p><p>But he would not give up.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="totoro, post: 130837, member: 3155"] I know my little girl is so much younger, but being someone who was kicked out at 13 and then left at 17... I certainly know the feeling of being a child who has parents who feel "done"... I am trying very hard to set up and protect K so I hopefully will never be done... but who knows, I am reading the Book, "Crazy" by: Peter Early, and I just finished it, but one section that I marked and went back to, which touches on this... says When Peter is talking to a man who runs an ALF... *He is asking the director how many chances a man gets to come back after he has murdered someone? The man replies that if he meets the criteria, why wouldn't they take him back? Peter asks but he has had 2 chances already, and sure it was because of his medications not working but why risk it? The director asks, "How many chances would you want us to give your son?" He then opens up a drawer and pulls out a sheet of paper with a diagram... with a chart. "All of us are alone" it says. He says "As each of us are confronted with our own complexity, then we are simultaneously confronted with the reality of our aloneness and isolation, to avoid being alone, human beings seek out relationships with others, either individually-as friends and lovers-or in families or by joining gangs, neighborhoods, clubs, or religious groups. The question then becomes, Where does the chronic mentally ill adult felony offender fit? Nowhere..." No group will accept him or her willingly into membership. They are the most isolated. The director goes on to say that at his ALF that they never run out of Chances... I think this can be said for a lot of our G'sFG as well. Mentally Ill or not. I am not saying this is an option for all of us, nor should it be, when your child is making a choice... or when you can't do it anymore. But this man's words really had an impact on me... He also made a point of the fact that the clients had to want it also... they had to try. But he would not give up. [/QUOTE]
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