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<blockquote data-quote="CAmom" data-source="post: 26129" data-attributes="member: 1835"><p>The latest---we heard from him tonight. He asked me to talk to his PO and assure her that he would begin to do much better from this point on if she (his PO) could assure him that he would be released from the program in 90 days. I told him that I would not talk to his PO because she isn't much interested in anything I have to say but, more importantly, she doesn't want to hear talk from him but rather wants to see some positive action on his part. </p><p></p><p>Unfortunately, my son has gotten though much of his life using his verbal skills (almost genius verbal IQ but without correlation on the performance side...). He's finding that that isn't working now and that what's required is DOING not talking about doing. </p><p></p><p>I'm trying my best to reinforce this, but it's hard because I've bought into his talk, along with numerous teachers and such, over the years. I suppose his anger is justifyable, now that no one, especially me, is buying into his talk anymore.</p><p></p><p>His response was that, if I wouldn't talk to his PO, then he didn't want us to visit him and wouldn't be seeing us until his program is complete and he is home for good. This is so obviously another one of his tactics to try to hurt me/us that it's almost laughable except that it still hurts--but not TOO much. Mostly, I feel sorry for him that, after almost five months in his program, he's STILL looking to shift the consequences of his actions onto everyone else.</p><p></p><p>I was already feeling pretty discouraged, but now I feel even more so...DDD, we need a pity party!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CAmom, post: 26129, member: 1835"] The latest---we heard from him tonight. He asked me to talk to his PO and assure her that he would begin to do much better from this point on if she (his PO) could assure him that he would be released from the program in 90 days. I told him that I would not talk to his PO because she isn't much interested in anything I have to say but, more importantly, she doesn't want to hear talk from him but rather wants to see some positive action on his part. Unfortunately, my son has gotten though much of his life using his verbal skills (almost genius verbal IQ but without correlation on the performance side...). He's finding that that isn't working now and that what's required is DOING not talking about doing. I'm trying my best to reinforce this, but it's hard because I've bought into his talk, along with numerous teachers and such, over the years. I suppose his anger is justifyable, now that no one, especially me, is buying into his talk anymore. His response was that, if I wouldn't talk to his PO, then he didn't want us to visit him and wouldn't be seeing us until his program is complete and he is home for good. This is so obviously another one of his tactics to try to hurt me/us that it's almost laughable except that it still hurts--but not TOO much. Mostly, I feel sorry for him that, after almost five months in his program, he's STILL looking to shift the consequences of his actions onto everyone else. I was already feeling pretty discouraged, but now I feel even more so...DDD, we need a pity party! [/QUOTE]
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