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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 71203" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Witz, you said, " The only forgiveness I have in this is forgiving myself for being young and naive."</p><p></p><p>Maybe for you, in this situation, that is the most important forgiveness of all. Forgiving someone does not mean that what they did was alright. It never means that. It just means that for you, you are no longer letting it hold you to a painful past, although you may never forget or trust that person again. That's OK too.</p><p></p><p>Maybe for a lot of us, too much emphasis has been placed on making us forgive before we are ready, and in too broad a way. This has to be an individual thing, not forced on us out of a misguided sense of what a 'nice' person should do.</p><p></p><p>To forgive is to begin to heal. The other person? That's their problem. I'm beyond it now, I have a life to get on with and I will never let any demon from my past hold me back.</p><p></p><p>We should stop holding ourselves to be accountable to higher standards than we hold others. Just free ourselves, as best we can, and live.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 71203, member: 1991"] Witz, you said, " The only forgiveness I have in this is forgiving myself for being young and naive." Maybe for you, in this situation, that is the most important forgiveness of all. Forgiving someone does not mean that what they did was alright. It never means that. It just means that for you, you are no longer letting it hold you to a painful past, although you may never forget or trust that person again. That's OK too. Maybe for a lot of us, too much emphasis has been placed on making us forgive before we are ready, and in too broad a way. This has to be an individual thing, not forced on us out of a misguided sense of what a 'nice' person should do. To forgive is to begin to heal. The other person? That's their problem. I'm beyond it now, I have a life to get on with and I will never let any demon from my past hold me back. We should stop holding ourselves to be accountable to higher standards than we hold others. Just free ourselves, as best we can, and live. Marg [/QUOTE]
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