Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
What is forgiveness?
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Steely" data-source="post: 71330" data-attributes="member: 3301"><p>Kjs........interestingly I had the exact same thing happen to me 6 years ago. It coincided with my difficult child jumping off the deep end, so I chose to stay home for the last 7 years......and yes.......while attending to difficult child I was also secretly harboring SO much resentment for this company. I had previously worked 10 years for this corp., and they had slammed me in every way possible. I think workplace trauma can be almost as horrible as relationship trauma - not quite - but almost. I mean we spend hours and hours there, giving our entire being to our careers, and then, after years of that, to have it dumped in our lap as useless, can be personally devastating.</p><p></p><p>I am now searching for a new career, and have had to really come to terms with my past experience with that company. Like you said, I have to start all over again, at the bottom, and work my way up. But the even scarier thing is that I have to believe in myself again........phew! I realized I had allowed that other company disaster to literally kill my sense of self, and my sense of confidence.</p><p></p><p>Which brings me full circle to the topic of forgiveness. No, I will not forgive them for what they did. If I saw the VP who was part of this on fire, I would not spit on her. However, I have tried to re-frame this episode in my mind. Change the paradigm so to speak. I now look back on the episode and know that I did everything I could have. I look at myself in the situation and feel peace that I really was an amazing employee, with tenure, and clout within the company, that was admired and looked up to. I have accepted that sometimes bad things happen to good people - and that is that. <strong>I </strong>did nothing to warrant this bad behavior on these other people's part.</p><p></p><p>And for me, this is part of what I suppose some people may call forgiveness, but I call acceptance, letting go, and loving myself. I hope you can somehow find this same peace within your situation.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Steely, post: 71330, member: 3301"] Kjs........interestingly I had the exact same thing happen to me 6 years ago. It coincided with my difficult child jumping off the deep end, so I chose to stay home for the last 7 years......and yes.......while attending to difficult child I was also secretly harboring SO much resentment for this company. I had previously worked 10 years for this corp., and they had slammed me in every way possible. I think workplace trauma can be almost as horrible as relationship trauma - not quite - but almost. I mean we spend hours and hours there, giving our entire being to our careers, and then, after years of that, to have it dumped in our lap as useless, can be personally devastating. I am now searching for a new career, and have had to really come to terms with my past experience with that company. Like you said, I have to start all over again, at the bottom, and work my way up. But the even scarier thing is that I have to believe in myself again........phew! I realized I had allowed that other company disaster to literally kill my sense of self, and my sense of confidence. Which brings me full circle to the topic of forgiveness. No, I will not forgive them for what they did. If I saw the VP who was part of this on fire, I would not spit on her. However, I have tried to re-frame this episode in my mind. Change the paradigm so to speak. I now look back on the episode and know that I did everything I could have. I look at myself in the situation and feel peace that I really was an amazing employee, with tenure, and clout within the company, that was admired and looked up to. I have accepted that sometimes bad things happen to good people - and that is that. [B]I [/B]did nothing to warrant this bad behavior on these other people's part. And for me, this is part of what I suppose some people may call forgiveness, but I call acceptance, letting go, and loving myself. I hope you can somehow find this same peace within your situation. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
What is forgiveness?
Top