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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 472343" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>Star and DDD make some very good points. That two week lag do seem a bit off and I would verify it with everyone just to be sure. Honestly, I would not even go there with the DBT stuff now. Like KLMNO said, she has started with the rehab, continue with that. DBT is good and all but it isnt the end all and be all that is going to magically turn her around. </p><p></p><p>Star is also right about the safelink phones. She doesnt even have to be on food stamps, she just has to be low income. Or it can be a company called assurance I think. Cory has one and its only 250 minutes a month and he gets by just fine on that because its free and he used to be my phone hog. </p><p></p><p>It is so easy to get wrapped up in our kids problems. Its hard to know when to step in and when to step out. I am thinking back and I realize I havent given Cory any money since I helped him move out last March. I did buy the AC but that wasnt cash and I didnt give him anything for his birthday after that. Havent a clue if you consider buying baby clothes helping or not. I think if its something I want to do and I am not asked or coerced into doing then it isnt enabling. </p><p></p><p>I think that is what you need to decide. If there is something you want to do for your daughter and you would do it with free will and would feel fine with it no matter what the outcome, then do it. If it is going to irritate you if what you give her is used for the wrong things or she loses it or whatever, then you shouldnt.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 472343, member: 1514"] Star and DDD make some very good points. That two week lag do seem a bit off and I would verify it with everyone just to be sure. Honestly, I would not even go there with the DBT stuff now. Like KLMNO said, she has started with the rehab, continue with that. DBT is good and all but it isnt the end all and be all that is going to magically turn her around. Star is also right about the safelink phones. She doesnt even have to be on food stamps, she just has to be low income. Or it can be a company called assurance I think. Cory has one and its only 250 minutes a month and he gets by just fine on that because its free and he used to be my phone hog. It is so easy to get wrapped up in our kids problems. Its hard to know when to step in and when to step out. I am thinking back and I realize I havent given Cory any money since I helped him move out last March. I did buy the AC but that wasnt cash and I didnt give him anything for his birthday after that. Havent a clue if you consider buying baby clothes helping or not. I think if its something I want to do and I am not asked or coerced into doing then it isnt enabling. I think that is what you need to decide. If there is something you want to do for your daughter and you would do it with free will and would feel fine with it no matter what the outcome, then do it. If it is going to irritate you if what you give her is used for the wrong things or she loses it or whatever, then you shouldnt. [/QUOTE]
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