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<blockquote data-quote="DazedandConfused" data-source="post: 472813" data-attributes="member: 831"><p>No disrespect meant, but she's 26 and you still want to verfiy her stories while she calls you "cold and calculating"?</p><p></p><p>I'm all about supporting sobiety too, but after all she has put you and husband though, I would refuse to support with any of my money. Not. One. Cent. If she wants it enough, she'll find a way to talk to her sponser and get to the meetings. I would only voluntarily offer support once she has well established her own sobiety and I'm talking AT LEAST 90 days. Then, little bits here and there on YOUR terms sans manipulation. How is this WOMAN ever going to fly on her own if you are willing to put out a pillow to soften her landing? </p><p></p><p>I only help those that help themselves FIRST. </p><p></p><p>I know it probably comes off very tough and hard, but I just have too many family members that bled other family members dry emotionally and financially trying to "help" them take responsibility for their own lives and you know what, not once did it ever work.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DazedandConfused, post: 472813, member: 831"] No disrespect meant, but she's 26 and you still want to verfiy her stories while she calls you "cold and calculating"? I'm all about supporting sobiety too, but after all she has put you and husband though, I would refuse to support with any of my money. Not. One. Cent. If she wants it enough, she'll find a way to talk to her sponser and get to the meetings. I would only voluntarily offer support once she has well established her own sobiety and I'm talking AT LEAST 90 days. Then, little bits here and there on YOUR terms sans manipulation. How is this WOMAN ever going to fly on her own if you are willing to put out a pillow to soften her landing? I only help those that help themselves FIRST. I know it probably comes off very tough and hard, but I just have too many family members that bled other family members dry emotionally and financially trying to "help" them take responsibility for their own lives and you know what, not once did it ever work. [/QUOTE]
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