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WHAT is WRONG with people? (rant of sorts)
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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 218480" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>Star, Beth...I'm with you on this one.</p><p>If you want some help with the flyer, let me know. </p><p></p><p>I think the reason is that people have become less mannerly, but they're still aware that good manners are required. When everyone else around them is also acting like a JERK, it makes them feel okay about their jerkishness, because they can tell themselves, "Everyone else is doing it, I can too."</p><p></p><p>When someone actually takes the time to be polite and thoughtful, it makes people feel ashamed that they're not doing likewise, so they lash out at the person making them experience an unpleasant feeling, rather than behaving properly. </p><p></p><p>An example:</p><p>A friend of mine once told me off for sending thank you notes. She said that she knows she's supposed to send them out, and when I send them out promptly it makes her look bad. So I should stop sending them.</p><p></p><p>Twisted logic, but there you have it.</p><p></p><p>I've found that Killing with Kindness works like a treat in these circumstances. I deliberately put the best possible interpretation on people's words, but continue to make my point. If they get nasty, I just blink at them slowly and continue on. It usually makes them wither before my eyes. AND because I'm being sweet as maraschino cherries, it usually gets the crowd on my side too.</p><p></p><p>But people parking in the handicapped spot...that really rots my socks. Also, people storing the shopping carts in them, piling the ploughed snow from the parking lot in them...all manner of things. Someone in a wheelchair is not going to be able to get out and move the carts, or shovel the piled snow.</p><p></p><p>What we need is for a traffic officer or 3 to sit there handing out tickets to people. That would deter...</p><p></p><p>Arrrrgh.</p><p></p><p>Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 218480, member: 3907"] Star, Beth...I'm with you on this one. If you want some help with the flyer, let me know. I think the reason is that people have become less mannerly, but they're still aware that good manners are required. When everyone else around them is also acting like a JERK, it makes them feel okay about their jerkishness, because they can tell themselves, "Everyone else is doing it, I can too." When someone actually takes the time to be polite and thoughtful, it makes people feel ashamed that they're not doing likewise, so they lash out at the person making them experience an unpleasant feeling, rather than behaving properly. An example: A friend of mine once told me off for sending thank you notes. She said that she knows she's supposed to send them out, and when I send them out promptly it makes her look bad. So I should stop sending them. Twisted logic, but there you have it. I've found that Killing with Kindness works like a treat in these circumstances. I deliberately put the best possible interpretation on people's words, but continue to make my point. If they get nasty, I just blink at them slowly and continue on. It usually makes them wither before my eyes. AND because I'm being sweet as maraschino cherries, it usually gets the crowd on my side too. But people parking in the handicapped spot...that really rots my socks. Also, people storing the shopping carts in them, piling the ploughed snow from the parking lot in them...all manner of things. Someone in a wheelchair is not going to be able to get out and move the carts, or shovel the piled snow. What we need is for a traffic officer or 3 to sit there handing out tickets to people. That would deter... Arrrrgh. Trinity [/QUOTE]
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