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<blockquote data-quote="donna723" data-source="post: 508759" data-attributes="member: 1883"><p>OMG Star! She's not a chubby redhead with a Tennessee accent, is she? This all sounds soooo familiar, and I'm so sorry that you have to go through all of that crappola just to keep a job! I know exactly how it is to have to contend with someone who is determined to do you in and how miserable working under those conditions can be because I went through it myself. I have no idea how these people pick their targets but I have my own theories and some might apply to your situation too.</p><p></p><p>The one I worked with wasn't my boss but she was in the same department, second in command, and had been there forever. She was snotty and arrogant and considered herself to be the ultimate authority on <em>everything</em>! There was a good reason that the rest of us referred to her as the "sacred cow of the business office! She was a grown up version of the school yard bully and was allowed for years to get away with treating other employees like dirt! I have no idea how it even started but her nose went in the air every time she saw me, as long as I've known her. With the State, we have lots of turnovers at the top, and the first thing she did was to immediately begin svcking up and ingratiating herself with management, then she'd use this "closeness" to bully other employees with her supposed power. In truth, the ONLY thing she really knew about was her tiny little area of responsibility, in just about everything else she was almost painfully ignorant! Just an undereducated ignortant bully who had been sitting in the same job for 30 years! Her "confidence" was just a big bluff and she disliked me intensly because she knew that I could see right through her, I was ON TO HER! I would never have wanted her job and she knew it - to me it would be extremely boring. But she saw me as a threat to her position. Not to her job, but to her supposed "status". I was the one who refused to be bullied and intimidated, the one who stood up to her and her BS and gave it right back to her, the one who could and would point out her monumental ignorance if she gave me half a chance. I documented every conversation and practically <em>dared</em> her to do it! I stood up to her enough that she finally stopped the overt attacks but Lord only knows what kind of koi she passed on to management about me. I know this doesn't help much because my solution to the problem was an early retirement ... just couldn't take any more of the BS from this situation and others like it ... but it might explain the motives a bit. This lady sees you as a threat - you're smart and work hard and in time you will make her look bad, so she wants to get rid of you!</p><p></p><p>And I think Lisa may be on to something too! You're probably not the first one she's done this to. And she may very well be up to something and wants to cast the blame on you! Or she's up to something and knows that it's just a matter of time before you start noticing things she doesn't want you to notice. My son went through something very similar when he worked for a large auto parts chain store. He came in at 1:00 pm and stayed to close up the store, usually by himself, at 9:00 pm. By their manager's orders and against all standard practices, the morning people would open the registers, then the afternoon people would just come in and take over the same registers without balancing them out first. So if they came up short, they didn't know who to blame and it started to be blamed on my son! When he closed up at night, some of the registers would come up short, always by even amounts, like someone had just taken a ten or a twenty dollar bill out of the drawer. He even started making up shortages out of his own pocket so he wouldn't be blamed forit and lose his job. Then ... some parts started turning up missing. If someone had ordered the wrong part or if a part was returned, they were put in a room to be shipped back to the manufacturer and some of them were coming up missing. The manager accused my son of taking some of these parts home and reselling them ... I honestly don't think my son has ever stolen anything in his whole life! And parts continued to disappear from the store. About a month later he called my son in and said that he could either resign or he would be fired and the store would prosecute for the thefts. He resigned and got a better job almost immediately! But, funny thing, after a while, parts started disappearing from the store again! And not long after that, he heard that the MANAGER had been caught taking parts home and reselling them! He was fired and arrested. Had my son been fired from his job and charged with theft, he might have had grounds for a lawsuit against the store, but because he officially resigned, there wasn't much he could do. But the manager did all that, put my son through all that, to deflect the blame away from himself, but it eventually caught up with him. This could very well be what's happening in your situation too. I really hope that you can get it all straightened out, that they start keeping a close eye on the ogre, and that you can keep your job. Sometimes life just stinks, but whatever happens, you're a survivor and you'll land on your feet!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="donna723, post: 508759, member: 1883"] OMG Star! She's not a chubby redhead with a Tennessee accent, is she? This all sounds soooo familiar, and I'm so sorry that you have to go through all of that crappola just to keep a job! I know exactly how it is to have to contend with someone who is determined to do you in and how miserable working under those conditions can be because I went through it myself. I have no idea how these people pick their targets but I have my own theories and some might apply to your situation too. The one I worked with wasn't my boss but she was in the same department, second in command, and had been there forever. She was snotty and arrogant and considered herself to be the ultimate authority on [I]everything[/I]! There was a good reason that the rest of us referred to her as the "sacred cow of the business office! She was a grown up version of the school yard bully and was allowed for years to get away with treating other employees like dirt! I have no idea how it even started but her nose went in the air every time she saw me, as long as I've known her. With the State, we have lots of turnovers at the top, and the first thing she did was to immediately begin svcking up and ingratiating herself with management, then she'd use this "closeness" to bully other employees with her supposed power. In truth, the ONLY thing she really knew about was her tiny little area of responsibility, in just about everything else she was almost painfully ignorant! Just an undereducated ignortant bully who had been sitting in the same job for 30 years! Her "confidence" was just a big bluff and she disliked me intensly because she knew that I could see right through her, I was ON TO HER! I would never have wanted her job and she knew it - to me it would be extremely boring. But she saw me as a threat to her position. Not to her job, but to her supposed "status". I was the one who refused to be bullied and intimidated, the one who stood up to her and her BS and gave it right back to her, the one who could and would point out her monumental ignorance if she gave me half a chance. I documented every conversation and practically [I]dared[/I] her to do it! I stood up to her enough that she finally stopped the overt attacks but Lord only knows what kind of koi she passed on to management about me. I know this doesn't help much because my solution to the problem was an early retirement ... just couldn't take any more of the BS from this situation and others like it ... but it might explain the motives a bit. This lady sees you as a threat - you're smart and work hard and in time you will make her look bad, so she wants to get rid of you! And I think Lisa may be on to something too! You're probably not the first one she's done this to. And she may very well be up to something and wants to cast the blame on you! Or she's up to something and knows that it's just a matter of time before you start noticing things she doesn't want you to notice. My son went through something very similar when he worked for a large auto parts chain store. He came in at 1:00 pm and stayed to close up the store, usually by himself, at 9:00 pm. By their manager's orders and against all standard practices, the morning people would open the registers, then the afternoon people would just come in and take over the same registers without balancing them out first. So if they came up short, they didn't know who to blame and it started to be blamed on my son! When he closed up at night, some of the registers would come up short, always by even amounts, like someone had just taken a ten or a twenty dollar bill out of the drawer. He even started making up shortages out of his own pocket so he wouldn't be blamed forit and lose his job. Then ... some parts started turning up missing. If someone had ordered the wrong part or if a part was returned, they were put in a room to be shipped back to the manufacturer and some of them were coming up missing. The manager accused my son of taking some of these parts home and reselling them ... I honestly don't think my son has ever stolen anything in his whole life! And parts continued to disappear from the store. About a month later he called my son in and said that he could either resign or he would be fired and the store would prosecute for the thefts. He resigned and got a better job almost immediately! But, funny thing, after a while, parts started disappearing from the store again! And not long after that, he heard that the MANAGER had been caught taking parts home and reselling them! He was fired and arrested. Had my son been fired from his job and charged with theft, he might have had grounds for a lawsuit against the store, but because he officially resigned, there wasn't much he could do. But the manager did all that, put my son through all that, to deflect the blame away from himself, but it eventually caught up with him. This could very well be what's happening in your situation too. I really hope that you can get it all straightened out, that they start keeping a close eye on the ogre, and that you can keep your job. Sometimes life just stinks, but whatever happens, you're a survivor and you'll land on your feet! [/QUOTE]
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