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What is your relationship like with your 1st cousins?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 737494" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Who puts you under this pressure? Are you not a grown adult? So who can pressure you? You dont even have to talk to them. Dad and Mom even must respect your decision. Or not. You dont need to do what they want anymore.</p><p> </p><p></p><p>It is only you who decides to go or not. A funeral is to comfort the living. The dead are in a better place already and I believe they understand. My husband was in the hospital with a heart problem that was potentially serious the day of my fathers funeral. So I missed it. I do not feel this means I dont love or respect my dear father. He was already with me in spirit and I still feel his presence. Sounds to me like the funeral, which is sort of a stage, was a place for my sisters kids to make great speeches...my kids do t do that. What did we miss? I still love him dearly and I know he still loves me and is with me.</p><p></p><p>Who benefits by your going to the funeral? If not you, you are not obligated to go. Funerals are a lot for show. I dont even think I want one for myself.</p><p></p><p>Again, it is up to you if you allow "people" to pressure you to do something that will not benefit your cousin and could not help you. Will others want your comfort? If i felt I could be a comfort to others I would go for that reason. That can be your only function.</p><p></p><p>If you are going to be treated like dirt because these people feel you are not as good as them, why go? How creepy of them to ever treat you that way.</p><p></p><p>You can not comfort your cousin once he has moved on to the next more beautiful world. It is all up to you if you wish to help your relatives who remain!</p><p></p><p>You have time to think about it. Spend time on it for yourself, make a decision and move on.</p><p></p><p>Would they care about your funeral? Morbid I know <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite7" alt=":p" title="Stick Out Tongue :p" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":p" /></p><p></p><p>Love and light!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 737494, member: 1550"] Who puts you under this pressure? Are you not a grown adult? So who can pressure you? You dont even have to talk to them. Dad and Mom even must respect your decision. Or not. You dont need to do what they want anymore. It is only you who decides to go or not. A funeral is to comfort the living. The dead are in a better place already and I believe they understand. My husband was in the hospital with a heart problem that was potentially serious the day of my fathers funeral. So I missed it. I do not feel this means I dont love or respect my dear father. He was already with me in spirit and I still feel his presence. Sounds to me like the funeral, which is sort of a stage, was a place for my sisters kids to make great speeches...my kids do t do that. What did we miss? I still love him dearly and I know he still loves me and is with me. Who benefits by your going to the funeral? If not you, you are not obligated to go. Funerals are a lot for show. I dont even think I want one for myself. Again, it is up to you if you allow "people" to pressure you to do something that will not benefit your cousin and could not help you. Will others want your comfort? If i felt I could be a comfort to others I would go for that reason. That can be your only function. If you are going to be treated like dirt because these people feel you are not as good as them, why go? How creepy of them to ever treat you that way. You can not comfort your cousin once he has moved on to the next more beautiful world. It is all up to you if you wish to help your relatives who remain! You have time to think about it. Spend time on it for yourself, make a decision and move on. Would they care about your funeral? Morbid I know :p Love and light! [/QUOTE]
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