Oh, yeah. I forgot to mention this. It just isnt important on my radar although it should be. But I truly did not know my first cousins.still,this was odd.
I mean, I was soooooooo treated like a non person in my DNA collection that when two of my first cousins passed away, at different times, nobody even told me!!!
Now we werent in any way close but this is just news normal families pass along.
Even more, my mother had a brain tumor and told everyone not to tell me so nobody did. I am not sure to this day why I couldnt know.
Eight years later Mother got brain cancer. I had not seen her per her desire for at least ten years and she did not ask for me even then. I let my siblings handle the illness and went to the funeral just to comfort others. It was a stranger who had died. I had grieved her way before then. I felt nothing about this person who had repeatedly rejected me. I was disinherited, no surprise, never sure why she hated her DNA oldest daughter (shrug).
I learned to intend to be kind to all but to only give my heart to people who want it. My DNA is no exception. Fortunately my family of choice is amazing!
Hope I didnt steal your thread. Sorry if I did.
