On the paternal side, from the town in which I live now, many cousins, as my father was from a family with 7 kids. But some have died and the rest dispersed except the female cousin I describe. I guess altogether there were a dozen cousins at least, besides my sister, brother and I.. Holidays were a big deal when my dad's parents were alive. But then when they died, each sibling became the head of their own family
On the maternal side only 2 cousins.
My sister and I were among the youngest cousins. Some were old enough to be my parents. That's part of it.
And with my father's family, my mother's family were a despised ethnic group. So I was too.
Complicated .Painful.