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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 450971" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Steely</p><p></p><p>Keep in mind that I mean this with <strong>much</strong> love. </p><p></p><p>Let yourself cry. Obviously you need it.</p><p></p><p>Other than that, you've got to make a <strong>conscious decision to change your attitude</strong> and how you look at life in general. </p><p></p><p>If you always expect to fail, dwell on the negatives of every situation, you're going to actually subconsciously set yourself up to fail.....and always see your life as bleak and hopeless. </p><p></p><p>Yes you had high hopes when you moved to AZ. Some bad stuffed happened. Life also happened. But you got closer to both your mom and matt than ever. You also got a wonderful furbaby. And I bet if you try really hard.......you can find other <strong>good things</strong> that happened while you've been there, even if they're few and far between.</p><p></p><p><strong>That</strong> is what you focus on, not the bad stuff. The same goes for life in general. </p><p></p><p>You're moving to be closer to both your Mom and Matt for a new beginning. That is an awesome thing. That takes the same courage that it took to move to AZ in the first place. You're NOT a loser, you never have been. But you get so caught up in the emotions of the bad crud of life that you prevent yourself from seeing that. No matter how bad things get, you tough it out. If you get knocked down, you pick yourself back up and move forward. You're much stronger than you'll ever realize. You're tough as nails. And brave as all hades. You can't be those things and be a loser. A loser gives up and waits for someone else to fix it while they cry over spilt milk. You don't give up, you keep pushing forward.</p><p></p><p>IF I allowed myself to focus on all the bad garbage in my life I swear to you there wouldn't be enough medication to keep me out of a padded room and a straight jacket. I keep moving forward by focusing on the positive good things in my life, even if I'm at a point where I have to really actively look for them. I don't ignore the bad stuff, I just deal with it as best I can and then let it go so I can focus on more positive things. </p><p></p><p>I know it can be really hard to feel positive about things when Life keeps throwing crud at you without giving you much of a break. Trust me, I'm the worlds biggest pessimist. lol But I've learned as I've grown older that my <strong>attitude </strong>has much more to do with things in my life as the stuff that is happening around me. If my attitude is in the toilet, even really good things I can't enjoy. If my attitude is positive and determined, things tend to work out in the end somehow. (how do you think I got through 4 yrs of school, especially the nursing part?)</p><p></p><p>Feel the feelings. But try to focus on the good things that happened or whatever from AZ and look at this move as your next Great Adventure. A fresh start. The world is your oyster. You're not the same Steely who went to AZ, you've grown. You can so do this. I don't want to hear that "loser" word again. No way kiddo. </p><p></p><p>(((hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 450971, member: 84"] Steely Keep in mind that I mean this with [B]much[/B] love. Let yourself cry. Obviously you need it. Other than that, you've got to make a [B]conscious decision to change your attitude[/B] and how you look at life in general. If you always expect to fail, dwell on the negatives of every situation, you're going to actually subconsciously set yourself up to fail.....and always see your life as bleak and hopeless. Yes you had high hopes when you moved to AZ. Some bad stuffed happened. Life also happened. But you got closer to both your mom and matt than ever. You also got a wonderful furbaby. And I bet if you try really hard.......you can find other [B]good things[/B] that happened while you've been there, even if they're few and far between. [B]That[/B] is what you focus on, not the bad stuff. The same goes for life in general. You're moving to be closer to both your Mom and Matt for a new beginning. That is an awesome thing. That takes the same courage that it took to move to AZ in the first place. You're NOT a loser, you never have been. But you get so caught up in the emotions of the bad crud of life that you prevent yourself from seeing that. No matter how bad things get, you tough it out. If you get knocked down, you pick yourself back up and move forward. You're much stronger than you'll ever realize. You're tough as nails. And brave as all hades. You can't be those things and be a loser. A loser gives up and waits for someone else to fix it while they cry over spilt milk. You don't give up, you keep pushing forward. IF I allowed myself to focus on all the bad garbage in my life I swear to you there wouldn't be enough medication to keep me out of a padded room and a straight jacket. I keep moving forward by focusing on the positive good things in my life, even if I'm at a point where I have to really actively look for them. I don't ignore the bad stuff, I just deal with it as best I can and then let it go so I can focus on more positive things. I know it can be really hard to feel positive about things when Life keeps throwing crud at you without giving you much of a break. Trust me, I'm the worlds biggest pessimist. lol But I've learned as I've grown older that my [B]attitude [/B]has much more to do with things in my life as the stuff that is happening around me. If my attitude is in the toilet, even really good things I can't enjoy. If my attitude is positive and determined, things tend to work out in the end somehow. (how do you think I got through 4 yrs of school, especially the nursing part?) Feel the feelings. But try to focus on the good things that happened or whatever from AZ and look at this move as your next Great Adventure. A fresh start. The world is your oyster. You're not the same Steely who went to AZ, you've grown. You can so do this. I don't want to hear that "loser" word again. No way kiddo. (((hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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