thisismylife? I have read every word that you wrote and God knows I have lived through most of what you wrote.
My daughter did not do better because she knew I would always be there worrying and giving her everything including my soul. The more I gave the more she took. I too thought she was too ill to be out there on her own. It got to the point I just could not do it anymore. I could not waste my life, time and money like that, it was keeping her stuck and depending on my support.
After deep prayers and years of crying I decided to cut complete contact with her for 3 months. And to my surprise, she found food to eat, shelter to go under. This forced her to grow up at age 28. My mind body and soul simply could not take her abuse any longer and I was starting to lose self respect. Many of these ill people have some common sense. I thought my daughter had NONE. I felt I just tossed her out of the support nest and forced her to fly. Hard as hell to do with all her many mental disorders. After a while it grew her up. Doing that was harder to do than burying my son. Now she is functioning ok, much better than years past. Had I not given her the cut off I am positive she would still be sucking me dry. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do but it was the best thing for her and for me. I wish you all the luck in the world and I pray you have the strength to kick your life sucking child out so he can gain wings and fly. And I pray that he does it soon.
