I really like this verbage "shifting gears." We had to change our thinking and define boundaries with our daughter and once we did, it brought much relief. My center of gravity was her as well. But, when something happened that opened my eyes, that changed. It was difficult and painful, but necessary. I have much angst about all the time lost. But, I thought I was doing the very best and that somehow , that was what I was suppose to do AND that doing my very best would make a positive difference. Hmmm. Well, not really. Not much at all. The ball is in her court. I've very significantly detached. And am moving forward. I hope for the best, but understand this is VERY (understatement here) likely going to be a very bumpy rough road...for her. Life moves on and life is good. Don't get me wrong, I'm not happy about much of this. I pray a lot these days. I finally get it when folks say "let go and let God." I have significantly more peace. We all need and deserve this.
