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<blockquote data-quote="Suz" data-source="post: 185101" data-attributes="member: 29"><p>I can understand self-protection and a desire to move forward. I'm a bit concerned about putting feelings in a proverbial box before you have dealt with them.</p><p> </p><p>Steely, my Dad was killed unexpectedly and in a violent manner when I was 20 years old. I came from a loving family...but a family who didn't talk about feelings. I stuffed my feelings down about Dad's death in order to function...but those boogers kept popping up in unexpected ways...........in panic attacks...........and anxiety......and misery....<strong>for decades</strong>.</p><p> </p><p>I think the concept of putting something in a box and filing it away is to do this AFTER you have dealt with the shock, rage, misery involved with grief. </p><p> </p><p>Your posts show that you are revisiting your feelings over and over so in my humble opinion you aren't ready to do the *box thing* yet. It's wishful thinking that you can file your feelings away at this point; sadly, I suggest it's still too early. I strongly urge you to get grief counseling now to help you during these phases. Your counselor- and you- will know when it's really time to move on.</p><p> </p><p>Suz</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Suz, post: 185101, member: 29"] I can understand self-protection and a desire to move forward. I'm a bit concerned about putting feelings in a proverbial box before you have dealt with them. Steely, my Dad was killed unexpectedly and in a violent manner when I was 20 years old. I came from a loving family...but a family who didn't talk about feelings. I stuffed my feelings down about Dad's death in order to function...but those boogers kept popping up in unexpected ways...........in panic attacks...........and anxiety......and misery....[B]for decades[/B]. I think the concept of putting something in a box and filing it away is to do this AFTER you have dealt with the shock, rage, misery involved with grief. Your posts show that you are revisiting your feelings over and over so in my humble opinion you aren't ready to do the *box thing* yet. It's wishful thinking that you can file your feelings away at this point; sadly, I suggest it's still too early. I strongly urge you to get grief counseling now to help you during these phases. Your counselor- and you- will know when it's really time to move on. Suz [/QUOTE]
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