I have made up my mind, after 4 years of complaining of being unhappy, to leave my husband.(2nd marriage) After the first year of marriage, I went to him to share my unhappiness. I told him everything. I felt that he didn't pay attention to me, his nasty tone with me and the kids, his drinking, the lack of sexual connection, etc. So...here we are 4 yrs later and I'm so done. I have said the same things over and over and he just doesn't get it. I get no support from him on anything. He is not easy to talk to. When I approach him about something, good or bad, he sighs and gets this disgusted look on his face as if to say, "what is she going to say now?". My question is...Do you think it is ok to let him know I am leaving during a marriage therapy session? Is it too much of an easy way out? I wanted the therapist there to mediate. I feel he has neglected me for so long, that he doesn't deserve anything more. Am I too cold???