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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 214299" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>No matter what husband means by Plan B...you have to recognize that you do not have control of "his" plan. All you can do is wait until he is ready to share with you what he means. Then you will be able to analyze his plan</p><p>and then chalk it up for the correct part of the Serenity Prayer. You can have the serenity to accept it, the courage to try to change it or the wisdom needed to know which option to choose. Meanwhile have faith that after so many very very difficult years as partners...your husband is not morphing into an unknown evil entitiy. He may NEED things to change to save himself. That is not wrong. Maybe he no longer can accept the things he can not change. Maybe he no longer has the courage needed.</p><p>Maybe he is just accepting that he has given his best and now neeeds to</p><p>ease the burden.</p><p> </p><p>Most men do not give up their individual lives for their children. My husband is truly one of the finest men you'll ever meet. He, in recent years, REALLY resents that we have sacraficed our lives and happiness because of GFGmom. In retrospect we BOTH wonder if the choices that we made decade after decade really were "best" and "necessary". We are not bad</p><p>people. Self-sacrafice is a beautiful thing in novels and movies but in reality it leads to a loss of personal interests and goal, a loss of financial</p><p>security, a loss of "normal" friendships etc. etc.</p><p> </p><p>Don't fear Plan B. The man you met and married before the wedding and before the children has the right to explore plan options. Have faith. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 214299, member: 35"] No matter what husband means by Plan B...you have to recognize that you do not have control of "his" plan. All you can do is wait until he is ready to share with you what he means. Then you will be able to analyze his plan and then chalk it up for the correct part of the Serenity Prayer. You can have the serenity to accept it, the courage to try to change it or the wisdom needed to know which option to choose. Meanwhile have faith that after so many very very difficult years as partners...your husband is not morphing into an unknown evil entitiy. He may NEED things to change to save himself. That is not wrong. Maybe he no longer can accept the things he can not change. Maybe he no longer has the courage needed. Maybe he is just accepting that he has given his best and now neeeds to ease the burden. Most men do not give up their individual lives for their children. My husband is truly one of the finest men you'll ever meet. He, in recent years, REALLY resents that we have sacraficed our lives and happiness because of GFGmom. In retrospect we BOTH wonder if the choices that we made decade after decade really were "best" and "necessary". We are not bad people. Self-sacrafice is a beautiful thing in novels and movies but in reality it leads to a loss of personal interests and goal, a loss of financial security, a loss of "normal" friendships etc. etc. Don't fear Plan B. The man you met and married before the wedding and before the children has the right to explore plan options. Have faith. DDD [/QUOTE]
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