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<blockquote data-quote="keista" data-source="post: 452478" data-attributes="member: 11965"><p>If you kick him to the curb, you're not turning your back on him, you are just refusing to enable his bad choices. And yes, at 23 that MUST be done. </p><p></p><p>You mentioned that he takes medications for bipolar. Was that diagnosed before or after the drug issues began? Was he ever 'stable' on his medicine? Not that it really matters to the ultimate course of action, but should not be forgotten/neglected issues during rehab and stabilization afterwards. Essentially what he's doing is forgoing the real medicine that could help (it is possible that he didn't have the right medication mix) and medicating himself with drugs that only temporarily make him feel better.</p><p></p><p>You cannot stop the grands from enabling him. They have to decide to stop on their own. That is the saddest part in this situation because as long as he has an 'easy way out' and ppl willing to enable him, recovery will be truly difficult.</p><p></p><p>Last night I watched my first episode of "Intervention" on A&E. Ironically it was a similar situation to yours where the parents were 'done' but the grandparents continued to enable. Unfortunately, in my opinion, it's that 'old fashioned" type of thinking that makes grandparents classic enablers.</p><p></p><p>I pray for strength for you and your wife as you deal with this situation.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="keista, post: 452478, member: 11965"] If you kick him to the curb, you're not turning your back on him, you are just refusing to enable his bad choices. And yes, at 23 that MUST be done. You mentioned that he takes medications for bipolar. Was that diagnosed before or after the drug issues began? Was he ever 'stable' on his medicine? Not that it really matters to the ultimate course of action, but should not be forgotten/neglected issues during rehab and stabilization afterwards. Essentially what he's doing is forgoing the real medicine that could help (it is possible that he didn't have the right medication mix) and medicating himself with drugs that only temporarily make him feel better. You cannot stop the grands from enabling him. They have to decide to stop on their own. That is the saddest part in this situation because as long as he has an 'easy way out' and ppl willing to enable him, recovery will be truly difficult. Last night I watched my first episode of "Intervention" on A&E. Ironically it was a similar situation to yours where the parents were 'done' but the grandparents continued to enable. Unfortunately, in my opinion, it's that 'old fashioned" type of thinking that makes grandparents classic enablers. I pray for strength for you and your wife as you deal with this situation. [/QUOTE]
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