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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 452507" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I have a daughter who abused drugs from age 12-19. It wasn't fun.</p><p></p><p>You have two big problems: </p><p>i/You can't force him to live away from his grandparents. He's over 18 and can live where he likes.</p><p>2/No addict quits until he wants to, no matter what anyone does to beg, encourage or help him.</p><p></p><p>My daughter didn't listen to anything we said. She had to get scared and be highly motivated to quit. Then she just did it...no rehab, nothing. We would have helped her, but she did it herself. However, we made it clear she could not live with us when she was using, and she left. And shortly after that, she quit. She had no car, no cell phone, no job...she moved in with her straight brother and had to follow his rules or be homeless. She got a job and walked to work, cried about being lonely a lot, but she did it. Now she is finishing college and bought her own house. In short, it is the person's own lonely journey and decision. I hope your son makes a good decision. Meanwhile, Al-Anon and Narc-Anon meeting offer great support for we parents. I highly recommend going, even if you just sit there and listen and don't speak.</p><p></p><p>Hugs and keep us posted.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 452507, member: 1550"] I have a daughter who abused drugs from age 12-19. It wasn't fun. You have two big problems: i/You can't force him to live away from his grandparents. He's over 18 and can live where he likes. 2/No addict quits until he wants to, no matter what anyone does to beg, encourage or help him. My daughter didn't listen to anything we said. She had to get scared and be highly motivated to quit. Then she just did it...no rehab, nothing. We would have helped her, but she did it herself. However, we made it clear she could not live with us when she was using, and she left. And shortly after that, she quit. She had no car, no cell phone, no job...she moved in with her straight brother and had to follow his rules or be homeless. She got a job and walked to work, cried about being lonely a lot, but she did it. Now she is finishing college and bought her own house. In short, it is the person's own lonely journey and decision. I hope your son makes a good decision. Meanwhile, Al-Anon and Narc-Anon meeting offer great support for we parents. I highly recommend going, even if you just sit there and listen and don't speak. Hugs and keep us posted. [/QUOTE]
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