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<blockquote data-quote="HeadSpinning" data-source="post: 453499" data-attributes="member: 12590"><p>Okay, so I've been reading through many of the threads here and have found quite a bit of information. Thanks to everyone who posts here!</p><p></p><p>Our current dilemma is what to do with this kid when he gets out of rehab. He's going to have to face the robbery/burglary charges listed earlier, but the expectation from the arresting officer is that he'll get probation with mandatory drug testing. That's a good thing. But once he's out of rehab, he doesn't have many options. It's not in his best interest to have him with either of his enabling grandparents. He has no rules with either of them and it's inevitable that he'll be using again. I'm fearful that, if he goes to some halfway house or transitional housing, he'll be there with a bunch of recovering abusers and will end up using again himself.</p><p></p><p>We don't want him to move back home because we're not about to have our 12-year-old daughter go through any more turmoil than she's already been through. But what other choice is there? I read in one of the other threads that if we have him come home and he starts acting up, we can call law enforcement or his PO and he goes to jail. That's a comforting thought because going to jail scares the hell out of the kid. Another option, as discussed, is that he moves out on his own. However, I think this kid needs to be watched like a hawk and I don't think freedom is something that will do him any good.</p><p></p><p>Am I just trying to be too protective of a parent for a 23-year-old? I'm reading that there are kids who are taking vitamins to beat drug tests. I doubt that our son doesn't know about that little trick as well. I sincerely want what's best for our entire family, including him. I don't want to help him at the expense of the rest of us, but I also don't want to focus on "just us" to his detriment, either. </p><p></p><p>Any advice? Thanks in advance for reading this and helping out.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HeadSpinning, post: 453499, member: 12590"] Okay, so I've been reading through many of the threads here and have found quite a bit of information. Thanks to everyone who posts here! Our current dilemma is what to do with this kid when he gets out of rehab. He's going to have to face the robbery/burglary charges listed earlier, but the expectation from the arresting officer is that he'll get probation with mandatory drug testing. That's a good thing. But once he's out of rehab, he doesn't have many options. It's not in his best interest to have him with either of his enabling grandparents. He has no rules with either of them and it's inevitable that he'll be using again. I'm fearful that, if he goes to some halfway house or transitional housing, he'll be there with a bunch of recovering abusers and will end up using again himself. We don't want him to move back home because we're not about to have our 12-year-old daughter go through any more turmoil than she's already been through. But what other choice is there? I read in one of the other threads that if we have him come home and he starts acting up, we can call law enforcement or his PO and he goes to jail. That's a comforting thought because going to jail scares the hell out of the kid. Another option, as discussed, is that he moves out on his own. However, I think this kid needs to be watched like a hawk and I don't think freedom is something that will do him any good. Am I just trying to be too protective of a parent for a 23-year-old? I'm reading that there are kids who are taking vitamins to beat drug tests. I doubt that our son doesn't know about that little trick as well. I sincerely want what's best for our entire family, including him. I don't want to help him at the expense of the rest of us, but I also don't want to focus on "just us" to his detriment, either. Any advice? Thanks in advance for reading this and helping out. [/QUOTE]
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