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<blockquote data-quote="HeadSpinning" data-source="post: 453516" data-attributes="member: 12590"><p>keista, I agree 100% with you. In my heart of hearts, I don't think that his moving back home is going to end well. Neither does my wife/his mom. But as a parent, my job is to give him the best possible chance of living a clean and productive life. Everything I've read about substance abuse tells me that recovery is not a process that takes a couple of months. He's going to be out after about two months in rehab, maybe less. Is an addict ready to make his own choices after two months in rehab? Believe me, I'm not one to coddle my kids and I'm so in agreement with the fact that this kid needs some tough love. This tough love could come with my saying "okay, kid, you're on your own now. Make the right choices," then pat him on the back and send him on his way. Or that tough love could come with my saying "you're going to come home with a support system. You're going to be supervised and you're going to follow rules. If you can't do that, then feel free to go on your way. If you screw up when you're home, the police/your probation officer will be called and you'll be in jail." Is it too big a risk to bring him back into our house? And what's the chance he's going to end up dead if we don't bring him here? I'm all about the fact that, at 23 years old, he should be making his own choices. But I don't want to bury my kid. Should moving back home be presented as an option for him?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HeadSpinning, post: 453516, member: 12590"] keista, I agree 100% with you. In my heart of hearts, I don't think that his moving back home is going to end well. Neither does my wife/his mom. But as a parent, my job is to give him the best possible chance of living a clean and productive life. Everything I've read about substance abuse tells me that recovery is not a process that takes a couple of months. He's going to be out after about two months in rehab, maybe less. Is an addict ready to make his own choices after two months in rehab? Believe me, I'm not one to coddle my kids and I'm so in agreement with the fact that this kid needs some tough love. This tough love could come with my saying "okay, kid, you're on your own now. Make the right choices," then pat him on the back and send him on his way. Or that tough love could come with my saying "you're going to come home with a support system. You're going to be supervised and you're going to follow rules. If you can't do that, then feel free to go on your way. If you screw up when you're home, the police/your probation officer will be called and you'll be in jail." Is it too big a risk to bring him back into our house? And what's the chance he's going to end up dead if we don't bring him here? I'm all about the fact that, at 23 years old, he should be making his own choices. But I don't want to bury my kid. Should moving back home be presented as an option for him? [/QUOTE]
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