Glad you were able to rescheduled the IEP meeting.
wrightslaw.com is one of my favorties, too. http://www.ed.gov/parents/needs/speced/iepguide/index.html may be helpful for you also. There is a "getting started" kind of thread in the Special Education Archives -- I forget it's title.
It is against the law for a sd to allow harassment. See:
https://web.archive.org/web/20130331085823/http://www2.ed.gov/PressReleases/07-2000/0726_2.html
http://www.ed.gov/about/offices/list/ocr/docs/disabharassltr.html
http://www.wrightslaw.com/nltr/05/nl.0201.htm
