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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 196257" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>Oh I so hear your hurting. My kids make me feel the same. Why did I ever think I would be a good mom? I have come to the conclusion that they don't trust me and are trying to make eveything my fault. I know it sounds bizzare, but my very first thought of easy child when I first laid eyes on her was, "This is not what I signed up for." I could already feel her energy - her demands that nothing is ever good enough - her DIVA attitude.</p><p> </p><p>I know you are giving your kids all the right messages. They just don't want to listen. The best thing I like about difficult child's psychiatrist is when he affirms my words, "difficult child, your mom is absolutely right. You need to listen to your mom." I know I have given my kids the right messages, it is that they don't trust my judgement and refuse to listen because it is not what they want to hear.</p><p> </p><p>I refer to easy child and difficult child as my pride and joy. easy child is my pride in that she does so many things that wow me. I know, they are normal things for all kids but being the first child, you don't take those things for granted - such fussing over the first steps, first words, ect. difficult child is my joy - he brought joy into our lives just by being so easy going - never did anything spectacular - after all, he was my 2nd child those normal things had become normal.</p><p> </p><p>My little pride and joy can cause me so much anger. I promised myself when I was young that I would never swear. These two have made me break my promise - they are the only two people on earth that can make me so angry that I start to swear. I am working really hard to stop doing so.</p><p> </p><p>Does your difficult child have calming techniques? Maybe he needs to find ways to stay calm. I know the stress eraser is expensive - I wish there was a way for you to test one to see if it is something your difficult child would like (my difficult child loves his). Check your local GNC store to see if they have one or can order one for a test (it is in their on-line catalog).</p><p> </p><p>I wish he would be open to seeing a therapist, someone he would like. That person will most likely give him the same advise you do but for some reason, it will sound more important from someone other than you. Our kids just don't hear us.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 196257, member: 5096"] Oh I so hear your hurting. My kids make me feel the same. Why did I ever think I would be a good mom? I have come to the conclusion that they don't trust me and are trying to make eveything my fault. I know it sounds bizzare, but my very first thought of easy child when I first laid eyes on her was, "This is not what I signed up for." I could already feel her energy - her demands that nothing is ever good enough - her DIVA attitude. I know you are giving your kids all the right messages. They just don't want to listen. The best thing I like about difficult child's psychiatrist is when he affirms my words, "difficult child, your mom is absolutely right. You need to listen to your mom." I know I have given my kids the right messages, it is that they don't trust my judgement and refuse to listen because it is not what they want to hear. I refer to easy child and difficult child as my pride and joy. easy child is my pride in that she does so many things that wow me. I know, they are normal things for all kids but being the first child, you don't take those things for granted - such fussing over the first steps, first words, ect. difficult child is my joy - he brought joy into our lives just by being so easy going - never did anything spectacular - after all, he was my 2nd child those normal things had become normal. My little pride and joy can cause me so much anger. I promised myself when I was young that I would never swear. These two have made me break my promise - they are the only two people on earth that can make me so angry that I start to swear. I am working really hard to stop doing so. Does your difficult child have calming techniques? Maybe he needs to find ways to stay calm. I know the stress eraser is expensive - I wish there was a way for you to test one to see if it is something your difficult child would like (my difficult child loves his). Check your local GNC store to see if they have one or can order one for a test (it is in their on-line catalog). I wish he would be open to seeing a therapist, someone he would like. That person will most likely give him the same advise you do but for some reason, it will sound more important from someone other than you. Our kids just don't hear us. [/QUOTE]
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