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<blockquote data-quote="Indianamomof4" data-source="post: 78818" data-attributes="member: 4062"><p>What does he say he wants to do? Did you ask him his plan? Let's say, fine, he does not go back to school. What's his plan then? I think teenagers, especially young ones, really don't understand later consequences of their actions, that are usually self-serving to the nth degree, you know? </p><p></p><p>Maybe you can pose some scenarios to him, just to see if he truly grasps the consequences of what might happen. If he needs medications and is not medicated, I'm not sure how communicative he will be, but it's worth a try.</p><p></p><p>Although my kids are very young, scare tactics sometimes work. For example, when my oldest (10, but arrogant and independent like someone twice his age) claimed he did not want to go to school again, I took him over by our Juvenile detention facility. I found an officer (a friend of a friend) who was willing to talk to him (he brought another officer with him for dramatic purposes) and potentially take him inside the facility for "tour". He was scared.</p><p></p><p>I've also taken him (and the others) by the homeless shelter after the people have to leave for the day. They scatter around the building all day, some with their stuff in carts, some looking strug out, haggard... I remind them all that their education can keep them out of living like this, that their education is so important that they can even grow up and work for the government to change situations like they see there and on TV.</p><p></p><p>Just an idea.... sometimes it's such a power fight with teens (and kids) that they need a real dose of reality instead of a struggle with words.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Indianamomof4, post: 78818, member: 4062"] What does he say he wants to do? Did you ask him his plan? Let's say, fine, he does not go back to school. What's his plan then? I think teenagers, especially young ones, really don't understand later consequences of their actions, that are usually self-serving to the nth degree, you know? Maybe you can pose some scenarios to him, just to see if he truly grasps the consequences of what might happen. If he needs medications and is not medicated, I'm not sure how communicative he will be, but it's worth a try. Although my kids are very young, scare tactics sometimes work. For example, when my oldest (10, but arrogant and independent like someone twice his age) claimed he did not want to go to school again, I took him over by our Juvenile detention facility. I found an officer (a friend of a friend) who was willing to talk to him (he brought another officer with him for dramatic purposes) and potentially take him inside the facility for "tour". He was scared. I've also taken him (and the others) by the homeless shelter after the people have to leave for the day. They scatter around the building all day, some with their stuff in carts, some looking strug out, haggard... I remind them all that their education can keep them out of living like this, that their education is so important that they can even grow up and work for the government to change situations like they see there and on TV. Just an idea.... sometimes it's such a power fight with teens (and kids) that they need a real dose of reality instead of a struggle with words. [/QUOTE]
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