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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 503067" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>Hmmmmm good question. When I first found or seriously suspected difficult child was smoking pot I did not take it personally at all. I never took her substance abuse personally because I know from personaly family experience that nobody makes you drink or do drugs and nothing they have done or didn't do causes you to be an addict.</p><p></p><p>I did try to control, yes I did. I tried to keep her away from the kids who were using. I tried to get her into more constructive activities, I took her to counseling, I had conferences with her teachers when her grades began to fall, I contacted the police and her school resource officer and thad them talk to her on numerous occassions to counsel her on what would happen if the drug use continued, I called the police on her and her friends when I found evidence of drug use, I contacted other parents involved to get their help.</p><p></p><p>I believed Carol O'Conner when he said to get between your kids and drugs any way you can.</p><p></p><p>I was surprised. husband and I pretty much saw this coming at a very early age when we had so many problems with her and she was diagnosed with ODD. We knew as she got older the problems would get older. We said many times when she was young that if we could get her through high school without being pregnant, on drugs or in jail we succeeded. We nearly made it, she did gradutae but by the skin of her teeth and she was already smoking pot and drinking.</p><p></p><p>I'm not sure what I would have done differently. I would never allow drugs or drug use in my home, it just wasn't an option. Not only because it is illegal and it kills people and destroys families but because of the character of the people she hung around with when using. This is my home that husband and I worked very hard to get and I wasn't going to let anyone destroy it.</p><p></p><p>We knew we had to somehow get difficult child into treatment and out of the house, we just didn't know how to do it and that's where I wish I had done something differently. I truly wish we had saved so much of the money we spent on counseling and medications and put her into treatment much sooner. By the time we did we had spent over $200,000 and depleted out savings so that when we finally did get her into treatment we could only afford 60 days and had nothing left for relapse. Looking back none of the counseling helped at all and was a waste of monet and while the medications may have helped a little at the time, they didn't justify the cost or side effects. She is on no medications now and there is no reason for her to be on any.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 503067, member: 59"] Hmmmmm good question. When I first found or seriously suspected difficult child was smoking pot I did not take it personally at all. I never took her substance abuse personally because I know from personaly family experience that nobody makes you drink or do drugs and nothing they have done or didn't do causes you to be an addict. I did try to control, yes I did. I tried to keep her away from the kids who were using. I tried to get her into more constructive activities, I took her to counseling, I had conferences with her teachers when her grades began to fall, I contacted the police and her school resource officer and thad them talk to her on numerous occassions to counsel her on what would happen if the drug use continued, I called the police on her and her friends when I found evidence of drug use, I contacted other parents involved to get their help. I believed Carol O'Conner when he said to get between your kids and drugs any way you can. I was surprised. husband and I pretty much saw this coming at a very early age when we had so many problems with her and she was diagnosed with ODD. We knew as she got older the problems would get older. We said many times when she was young that if we could get her through high school without being pregnant, on drugs or in jail we succeeded. We nearly made it, she did gradutae but by the skin of her teeth and she was already smoking pot and drinking. I'm not sure what I would have done differently. I would never allow drugs or drug use in my home, it just wasn't an option. Not only because it is illegal and it kills people and destroys families but because of the character of the people she hung around with when using. This is my home that husband and I worked very hard to get and I wasn't going to let anyone destroy it. We knew we had to somehow get difficult child into treatment and out of the house, we just didn't know how to do it and that's where I wish I had done something differently. I truly wish we had saved so much of the money we spent on counseling and medications and put her into treatment much sooner. By the time we did we had spent over $200,000 and depleted out savings so that when we finally did get her into treatment we could only afford 60 days and had nothing left for relapse. Looking back none of the counseling helped at all and was a waste of monet and while the medications may have helped a little at the time, they didn't justify the cost or side effects. She is on no medications now and there is no reason for her to be on any. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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