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<blockquote data-quote="lovemysons" data-source="post: 503072" data-attributes="member: 3305"><p>husband has a "bowling analogy" (he is a bowling coach, lol) that he was just discussing with me. </p><p>He said, "We are not responsible for results...Only execution". </p><p>Meaning, we can do EVERYTHING we can to see to it that the ball gets down the lane and hits all the pins...that is the goal. But, at the point we let go of the ball at the line...we are no longer responsible. The results are not ours. This is how husband lives with himself regarding our difficult child's. </p><p></p><p>I think it is good to realize that we have ALL fought a good fight for our Sub Abusing difficult children lives. </p><p>But at some point...and here is my analogy...we have to tell them to Sink or Swim. We no longer can tread water and fight for their lives anymore...they must do it for themselves. </p><p>The money runs out, the emotions run out, the strength runs out, etc. I know I can't do this for them anymore. My Psychotic breakdown 5yrs ago should have told me that. </p><p></p><p>DDD...So true that it can take years and years for them to be capable of accepting responsiblity.</p><p></p><p>I am trying to have hope for my young difficult child. </p><p>I think I will simply tell him I have confidence that he will find the answers to his problems...I have done all I can...we all have. </p><p></p><p>LMS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lovemysons, post: 503072, member: 3305"] husband has a "bowling analogy" (he is a bowling coach, lol) that he was just discussing with me. He said, "We are not responsible for results...Only execution". Meaning, we can do EVERYTHING we can to see to it that the ball gets down the lane and hits all the pins...that is the goal. But, at the point we let go of the ball at the line...we are no longer responsible. The results are not ours. This is how husband lives with himself regarding our difficult child's. I think it is good to realize that we have ALL fought a good fight for our Sub Abusing difficult children lives. But at some point...and here is my analogy...we have to tell them to Sink or Swim. We no longer can tread water and fight for their lives anymore...they must do it for themselves. The money runs out, the emotions run out, the strength runs out, etc. I know I can't do this for them anymore. My Psychotic breakdown 5yrs ago should have told me that. DDD...So true that it can take years and years for them to be capable of accepting responsiblity. I am trying to have hope for my young difficult child. I think I will simply tell him I have confidence that he will find the answers to his problems...I have done all I can...we all have. LMS [/QUOTE]
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