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<blockquote data-quote="exhausted" data-source="post: 503350" data-attributes="member: 11001"><p>Kathy,</p><p>Sending her to the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) may have worked but it may not have. The more we controlled the worse our daughter got. The Residential Treatment Center (RTC) stays have ended up causing more issues. She came out worse both times. She learned new tricks, the sytem, and she felt as if our solution to dealing with her was to send her away-get rid of her. There are no hard and fast answers. <strong>We do what we do at any given time based on what we have, and know.</strong> </p><p></p><p>Though I am threading down the 12 step path, I do it with suspicion and a bit of a grudge-though I must admit I really like this group and felt very supported. Everything we have tried we have had no results or minimal results. One book I read about borderline personality even said that the tough love approach would backfire. I don't know if that is what we will end up with-but 2 professionals have said she has the traits. So on one hand, we use Residential Treatment Center (RTC) as a treatment, where tough love is the order of the day for the substance abuse, and yet we may have made the mental illnesses worse. Who knows???</p><p></p><p>There isn't a cure or a one way answer for our kids. Many have substance abuse issues but have mental illness as a complicator. I am trying to feel better about myself and my life so I can be the person I once was-that is what I hope I get from families anonymous. I will go day by day with difficult child. I am praying she will be able to care for herself someday. There are days when I know she can and days when I think she is so immature and incapable.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="exhausted, post: 503350, member: 11001"] Kathy, Sending her to the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) may have worked but it may not have. The more we controlled the worse our daughter got. The Residential Treatment Center (RTC) stays have ended up causing more issues. She came out worse both times. She learned new tricks, the sytem, and she felt as if our solution to dealing with her was to send her away-get rid of her. There are no hard and fast answers. [B]We do what we do at any given time based on what we have, and know.[/B] Though I am threading down the 12 step path, I do it with suspicion and a bit of a grudge-though I must admit I really like this group and felt very supported. Everything we have tried we have had no results or minimal results. One book I read about borderline personality even said that the tough love approach would backfire. I don't know if that is what we will end up with-but 2 professionals have said she has the traits. So on one hand, we use Residential Treatment Center (RTC) as a treatment, where tough love is the order of the day for the substance abuse, and yet we may have made the mental illnesses worse. Who knows??? There isn't a cure or a one way answer for our kids. Many have substance abuse issues but have mental illness as a complicator. I am trying to feel better about myself and my life so I can be the person I once was-that is what I hope I get from families anonymous. I will go day by day with difficult child. I am praying she will be able to care for herself someday. There are days when I know she can and days when I think she is so immature and incapable. [/QUOTE]
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