Follow through and consistency with difficult child can be so stressful and difficult. But then at times it can be a blessing. I'm curious what kind of rules/boundaries you've had to set for your difficult child children, and then had the joy of following through on? what was your child's reaction? As I've said in a different thread, my (almost) 19-year-old is back living with us. Her behaviors have not changed (staying out all night, using goodness knows what, disrespect, sloppiness...), it is more US that has changed. So now, I'm having the difficult task of setting boundaries and following through with them. We talked with her yesterday and explained that staying up all night running the streets and sleeping all day (only to get up again and do the same thing) is not conducive with a healthy adult lifestyle (not will it help her finish her GED or get her a job), and it won't work in our household. She was to come home at 11pm last night. She did not. She called saying she was "on her way" (famous words), was obviously using, and then called at 2am to say she was coming home. Dad said "no way" and told her to stay at her friend's house. This morning she called to get a ride home/to see if we were here (she has no key), and my husband informed her that she was not welcome to come here today to shower, change and eat, because she did not make it home last night, as promised. He told her she would be welcome to come tonight by 11pm and sleep here, if she could manage that. But if she was going to be running the streets at night, she was not welcome to be here during the day. She screamed, swore, threatened and put on a sickening display. But he didn't budge. And God bless him, he did it all himself. She didn't even bother calling me to try and bully her way through me. It's really sad, frustrating and infuriating the decisions she's making. But we can't be held captive by them. If things continue this way, we will have to follow through on kicking her out, which will be very, very hard-- just like today has been. Can't stop the worry, can't help but feel bad. But I hope that consequences will help her see her behaviors for what they are a bit. How 'bout you?