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What was your most difficult boundary to set AND enforce?
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<blockquote data-quote="Mom2oddson" data-source="post: 365842" data-attributes="member: 65"><p>The most difficult and hardest to keep boundary is the one I set for myself. And that one is to stay neutral with the difficult children. I need to do this one for my own sanity. So when difficult child-A stops by the house to tell me how high he is, I smile and say "that's nice"..... when I'm told whatever lie of the day he is handing out, I say "that's nice". When husband had difficult child-A home for a talk, I went out and didn't come home until he had left. </p><p></p><p>With difficult child-S, since she's made it clear that she wants nothing to do with me, including ignoring me on Mother's day... I don't even try to make contact. When husband tells me that he's gone to see her, I say..."that's nice" and "glad you had a good time visiting". I don't even want to hear about her right now. </p><p></p><p>I love my children so much and it's really hard to keep this wall in place. But it's the only way I can survive. Otherwise, I'm torn up inside so bad, I can't function right. What little I do hear about or from my kids is enough. difficult child-A is a high school drop-out with no intentions for the future except to continue his reign as beer-pong king. He's so smart and so talented, but he won't use it - for himself. He has no problems doing huge projects for his friends so that they get A's. </p><p></p><p>difficult child-S is the hardest of the two. She's my little girl and I love her so much. But she has written me off as her Mom. After all, I was evil enough to make her do her homework, go to counseling and do the dishes. Now she has straight F's, is still doing drugs, not taking any of her medications, but she's happy according to mother in law and husband.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mom2oddson, post: 365842, member: 65"] The most difficult and hardest to keep boundary is the one I set for myself. And that one is to stay neutral with the difficult children. I need to do this one for my own sanity. So when difficult child-A stops by the house to tell me how high he is, I smile and say "that's nice"..... when I'm told whatever lie of the day he is handing out, I say "that's nice". When husband had difficult child-A home for a talk, I went out and didn't come home until he had left. With difficult child-S, since she's made it clear that she wants nothing to do with me, including ignoring me on Mother's day... I don't even try to make contact. When husband tells me that he's gone to see her, I say..."that's nice" and "glad you had a good time visiting". I don't even want to hear about her right now. I love my children so much and it's really hard to keep this wall in place. But it's the only way I can survive. Otherwise, I'm torn up inside so bad, I can't function right. What little I do hear about or from my kids is enough. difficult child-A is a high school drop-out with no intentions for the future except to continue his reign as beer-pong king. He's so smart and so talented, but he won't use it - for himself. He has no problems doing huge projects for his friends so that they get A's. difficult child-S is the hardest of the two. She's my little girl and I love her so much. But she has written me off as her Mom. After all, I was evil enough to make her do her homework, go to counseling and do the dishes. Now she has straight F's, is still doing drugs, not taking any of her medications, but she's happy according to mother in law and husband. [/QUOTE]
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