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<blockquote data-quote="Ktllc" data-source="post: 588752" data-attributes="member: 11847"><p>Do what you feel is right for your child. I have been where you are right now. I know what a tough decision it is. Wouldn't be great to have a crystal ball so one could see all the possible outcomes of the different scenarios?</p><p>For us, pulling V out of the daycare that was inflexible was the BEST thing.</p><p>First I kept him home with me for a few weeks so he could recover. Than, I made him visit Sweet Pea's daycare and talked with them about wether they could work with me and V. I knew how flexible they were (director has a special need child herself with tremendous behavior and cognitive challenges).</p><p>I promissed V that he would not be forced to stay if he chose not too. Slowly, he got used to it. Started with 15minutes, than 1 hour, than 2 hours all the way to six hours. When I would drop Sweet Pea off, I would ask V if he was ready to try. Some days he tried, some other days he said he was not ready.</p><p>It was a very slow process and the daycare worked with us with no pressure. At that time, we also started him with his visual schedule on a daily basis. </p><p>The daycare was not very knowedgeable with his special set of challenges, but they were loving, flexible and non judgemental. That was the magic formula. </p><p>Slowly, V's self esteem got better (not because of the change of daycare, therapis also helped but therapies could not compensate for bad daycare).</p><p>I also contacted the school before K started and set up a meeting to explain what V's challenges are and what needs to be done to help him. (I know you contacted your school already, very good!)</p><p>At the time, we did not have an overall diagnosis, but you can't let that stop you. Medical diagnosis are not equal to automatic school services anyways.</p><p>Follow your guts. Mom knows best.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ktllc, post: 588752, member: 11847"] Do what you feel is right for your child. I have been where you are right now. I know what a tough decision it is. Wouldn't be great to have a crystal ball so one could see all the possible outcomes of the different scenarios? For us, pulling V out of the daycare that was inflexible was the BEST thing. First I kept him home with me for a few weeks so he could recover. Than, I made him visit Sweet Pea's daycare and talked with them about wether they could work with me and V. I knew how flexible they were (director has a special need child herself with tremendous behavior and cognitive challenges). I promissed V that he would not be forced to stay if he chose not too. Slowly, he got used to it. Started with 15minutes, than 1 hour, than 2 hours all the way to six hours. When I would drop Sweet Pea off, I would ask V if he was ready to try. Some days he tried, some other days he said he was not ready. It was a very slow process and the daycare worked with us with no pressure. At that time, we also started him with his visual schedule on a daily basis. The daycare was not very knowedgeable with his special set of challenges, but they were loving, flexible and non judgemental. That was the magic formula. Slowly, V's self esteem got better (not because of the change of daycare, therapis also helped but therapies could not compensate for bad daycare). I also contacted the school before K started and set up a meeting to explain what V's challenges are and what needs to be done to help him. (I know you contacted your school already, very good!) At the time, we did not have an overall diagnosis, but you can't let that stop you. Medical diagnosis are not equal to automatic school services anyways. Follow your guts. Mom knows best. [/QUOTE]
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