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<blockquote data-quote="nvts" data-source="post: 102253" data-attributes="member: 3814"><p>Went through this last summer. When you get to the point of "that's it" something is going to make you blow. </p><p></p><p>There was a lot going on in his head and subsequently our marriage. What you have to decide is: would you honestly care if he stays or goes? At the time, I loved him but couldn't have cared less if he left. He had become a non-participating entity in the house. I did a lot of thinking and decided that more damage was being done to the "wee-ones" having him here. See, it's one thing to be ignored by a parent in a divorce situation. It hurts horribly, but there isn't that person walking through your house ignoring you every single day.</p><p></p><p>Long story short: we hit a brick wall. I was responsible for everything and he was going through a massive depression. The "arm-chair quarterbacking" regarding the house, kids, school, yard, cars, bills, laundry, pet care, pool care, etc. had me going through the roof. </p><p></p><p>We worked things out, but only after I was willing to sensibly saying "if you don't want to participate - go". I was as shocked as he was. But it opened the door for communication. It doesn't work out for everyone, but at least you can look in a mirror and know that you spoke your mind. </p><p></p><p>Beth</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nvts, post: 102253, member: 3814"] Went through this last summer. When you get to the point of "that's it" something is going to make you blow. There was a lot going on in his head and subsequently our marriage. What you have to decide is: would you honestly care if he stays or goes? At the time, I loved him but couldn't have cared less if he left. He had become a non-participating entity in the house. I did a lot of thinking and decided that more damage was being done to the "wee-ones" having him here. See, it's one thing to be ignored by a parent in a divorce situation. It hurts horribly, but there isn't that person walking through your house ignoring you every single day. Long story short: we hit a brick wall. I was responsible for everything and he was going through a massive depression. The "arm-chair quarterbacking" regarding the house, kids, school, yard, cars, bills, laundry, pet care, pool care, etc. had me going through the roof. We worked things out, but only after I was willing to sensibly saying "if you don't want to participate - go". I was as shocked as he was. But it opened the door for communication. It doesn't work out for everyone, but at least you can look in a mirror and know that you spoke your mind. Beth [/QUOTE]
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