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<blockquote data-quote="BackintheSaddle" data-source="post: 622818" data-attributes="member: 17503"><p>Hi Ruppertk...nice to meet you...that sounds awful-- to be going through a separation and divorce, such a life-changing set of events and to add the loss of your daughter (as you hoped she'd be) on top of that...my heart goes out to you...yes, I fear my difficult child is only verifying that all he cares about from me is how much I pay for and the less I pay for, the less he has time for me...I've been having a day of questioning myself (again) so wanted to reread what people have been saying...it's hard not to get myself caught up in the guilt trip I can stew up for myself...should I just suck it in and apologize, I say to myself? but I always come back to the same thing-- what would I be apologizing for? I was a good mom to him and, like you said, I gave him all I could with love and support every step of the way (and raising him was never ever easy-- he was a difficult child from kindergarten on)...have you not talked to her at all for 2 years? that's hard to imagine...it's only been 3 months for me...I did reply to that email above like Cedar suggested (ok, honey....I love you)...no reply...then later this week, I sent him a text to say hello and wanted to just check in with him...no reply...I need to stop trying, as my husband points out to me, but I do miss him so much and his memory of what really happened is so distorted that sometimes I want to just try and reason with him again...even though I know it won't work....it hasn't in the past 3-4 years so I don't know why I think it'd matter now...</p><p> </p><p>Welcome to this web site (it says you're a new member)...hope you are finding it helpful and thank you for answering my thread</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BackintheSaddle, post: 622818, member: 17503"] Hi Ruppertk...nice to meet you...that sounds awful-- to be going through a separation and divorce, such a life-changing set of events and to add the loss of your daughter (as you hoped she'd be) on top of that...my heart goes out to you...yes, I fear my difficult child is only verifying that all he cares about from me is how much I pay for and the less I pay for, the less he has time for me...I've been having a day of questioning myself (again) so wanted to reread what people have been saying...it's hard not to get myself caught up in the guilt trip I can stew up for myself...should I just suck it in and apologize, I say to myself? but I always come back to the same thing-- what would I be apologizing for? I was a good mom to him and, like you said, I gave him all I could with love and support every step of the way (and raising him was never ever easy-- he was a difficult child from kindergarten on)...have you not talked to her at all for 2 years? that's hard to imagine...it's only been 3 months for me...I did reply to that email above like Cedar suggested (ok, honey....I love you)...no reply...then later this week, I sent him a text to say hello and wanted to just check in with him...no reply...I need to stop trying, as my husband points out to me, but I do miss him so much and his memory of what really happened is so distorted that sometimes I want to just try and reason with him again...even though I know it won't work....it hasn't in the past 3-4 years so I don't know why I think it'd matter now... Welcome to this web site (it says you're a new member)...hope you are finding it helpful and thank you for answering my thread [/QUOTE]
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