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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 620801" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>Child...you have done so well! You are taking care of you!!! You cannot ever have a healthy relationship with him unless you let yourself get well and strong first. I had exactly that moment as well...we really are temporarily in parallel...I asked difficult child to stop calling me, told him I was not ready to talk with him or see him yet. I felt so awful, so sad (and uh, SO ANGRY AGAIN) about that...and yet...I felt so wounded, so frail, so raw...I had to heal some, to get stronger, before I could see him again. I KNOW that was the right thing..my whole body and spirit demanded it, I rarely have so much clarity. I feel you are in the same place. And you, too, are doing the right, best thing, for you, for those you love, for everyone. YOu have to tend to you, which right now means you have to stay away from the toxicitiy of your past relationship with difficult child. It is sad that it may make him sad...but for all of us our lives have sadness...that is part of our humanity. We can't protect our loved ones from that...you cannot protect him from it, and heaven knows he hasn't even an inkling of a thought of protecting you from sadness! So let him be sad today because overall that is a side effect of what it takes for you to continue on the path towards wellness, wholeness.</p><p></p><p>Very much with you today, this weekend. Blessings and hugs to you. Go walk outside..if you are in the east, as I am....it is warm out today, and smells of spring. (it will snow later this week).</p><p></p><p>Echo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 620801, member: 17269"] Child...you have done so well! You are taking care of you!!! You cannot ever have a healthy relationship with him unless you let yourself get well and strong first. I had exactly that moment as well...we really are temporarily in parallel...I asked difficult child to stop calling me, told him I was not ready to talk with him or see him yet. I felt so awful, so sad (and uh, SO ANGRY AGAIN) about that...and yet...I felt so wounded, so frail, so raw...I had to heal some, to get stronger, before I could see him again. I KNOW that was the right thing..my whole body and spirit demanded it, I rarely have so much clarity. I feel you are in the same place. And you, too, are doing the right, best thing, for you, for those you love, for everyone. YOu have to tend to you, which right now means you have to stay away from the toxicitiy of your past relationship with difficult child. It is sad that it may make him sad...but for all of us our lives have sadness...that is part of our humanity. We can't protect our loved ones from that...you cannot protect him from it, and heaven knows he hasn't even an inkling of a thought of protecting you from sadness! So let him be sad today because overall that is a side effect of what it takes for you to continue on the path towards wellness, wholeness. Very much with you today, this weekend. Blessings and hugs to you. Go walk outside..if you are in the east, as I am....it is warm out today, and smells of spring. (it will snow later this week). Echo [/QUOTE]
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