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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 620807" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Good morning. </p><p></p><p>COM, I am impressed that you were able to identify your own feelings of discomfort in seeing your difficult child now and that you focused on those rather then taking care of his feelings............AND, that you acted on your feelings and made a choice solely about what you need and want. That is a big step. And, ECHO, you too. You're both doing a really good job under extraordinarily difficult circumstances.</p><p></p><p>This transition from pulling ourselves out of the fray, being able to observe it without taking the old action and then acknowledging and acting upon our own needs is a huge step..........and in terms of detaching, I think it is the crucial turning point because it's as if we are stopping a runaway train, it takes enormous strength and resolve to do it. The patterns in our own "addiction to enabling" are old and deep and to make a new pattern is hard, but <em>you both are doing that. </em></p><p></p><p>COM, sending you strength to stay the course and caring thoughts as you ride this transition through.......I am thinking about you this morning as you prepare to talk to your difficult child. Keep us posted.</p><p></p><p>And for all of us on this journey, as we make these big steps in our own recovery process, let's not forget to acknowledge ourselves and the courage it takes to do this.............and to give ourselves the time to take really good care of ourselves, to nurture ourselves each day. Do something especially kind for yourselves today.</p><p></p><p>I smiled at the image of all of us on that ship sitting around with our laptops writing each other while we are actually all there. It reminded me of the teenagers who are all together but texting each other or others.............so we're the "older" version of the texting crowd! </p><p></p><p>Cedar, I love your imagery (as always) of sitting beside the pool waiting for the moon to rise. What a lovely thought.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 620807, member: 13542"] Good morning. COM, I am impressed that you were able to identify your own feelings of discomfort in seeing your difficult child now and that you focused on those rather then taking care of his feelings............AND, that you acted on your feelings and made a choice solely about what you need and want. That is a big step. And, ECHO, you too. You're both doing a really good job under extraordinarily difficult circumstances. This transition from pulling ourselves out of the fray, being able to observe it without taking the old action and then acknowledging and acting upon our own needs is a huge step..........and in terms of detaching, I think it is the crucial turning point because it's as if we are stopping a runaway train, it takes enormous strength and resolve to do it. The patterns in our own "addiction to enabling" are old and deep and to make a new pattern is hard, but [I]you both are doing that. [/I] COM, sending you strength to stay the course and caring thoughts as you ride this transition through.......I am thinking about you this morning as you prepare to talk to your difficult child. Keep us posted. And for all of us on this journey, as we make these big steps in our own recovery process, let's not forget to acknowledge ourselves and the courage it takes to do this.............and to give ourselves the time to take really good care of ourselves, to nurture ourselves each day. Do something especially kind for yourselves today. I smiled at the image of all of us on that ship sitting around with our laptops writing each other while we are actually all there. It reminded me of the teenagers who are all together but texting each other or others.............so we're the "older" version of the texting crowd! Cedar, I love your imagery (as always) of sitting beside the pool waiting for the moon to rise. What a lovely thought. [/QUOTE]
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