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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 552350" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>Good questions. With gentle caring hugs, I feel a need to insert, it is HIS job to manage all of his issues. Not one falls on you or husband or his wife or anybody else. </p><p></p><p>You and husband are going beyond the call to provide an adult, married father, a roof over his head and food etc while he looks for work. Beyond that? If you choose to drive him to meetings or interviews etc, that's a kindness that isn't an obligation. If you do much more? You may just be walking the fine line Into enabling. </p><p></p><p>Not to say that as a parent, if young difficult child is working his hiney off in every way, you might not choose to help in more ways. However. A BIG however. However, if he steps into chaos or doesn't work his hiney off? Why on earth are you and husband expected to live that chaos? Answer is, you are not. I know you know these things my friend. </p><p></p><p>I am rooting for your young difficult child. I'm also rooting for you keeping firm on this wonderful growth into a mother who loves but knows now what is not expected of her. As always, I have utter faith in you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 552350, member: 4264"] Good questions. With gentle caring hugs, I feel a need to insert, it is HIS job to manage all of his issues. Not one falls on you or husband or his wife or anybody else. You and husband are going beyond the call to provide an adult, married father, a roof over his head and food etc while he looks for work. Beyond that? If you choose to drive him to meetings or interviews etc, that's a kindness that isn't an obligation. If you do much more? You may just be walking the fine line Into enabling. Not to say that as a parent, if young difficult child is working his hiney off in every way, you might not choose to help in more ways. However. A BIG however. However, if he steps into chaos or doesn't work his hiney off? Why on earth are you and husband expected to live that chaos? Answer is, you are not. I know you know these things my friend. I am rooting for your young difficult child. I'm also rooting for you keeping firm on this wonderful growth into a mother who loves but knows now what is not expected of her. As always, I have utter faith in you. [/QUOTE]
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