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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 552439"><p>hmmmm... What's taken you so long? I wouldn't say it's taken long at all! December is still a ways off. When your son got into trouble & you found out daughter in law was pg, you were in crisis. Not just the "how am I going to deal with the issues at hand" but "what will become of him/ them?" "What if? How? When? etc."</p><p></p><p>I am relating it to my own experiences and the things that make me panic in the middle of the night. I like having my ducks in a row. Belt and suspenders. When I go with "Plan A" I like knowing that I have "Plan B" <strong>THROUGH </strong>"Plan Z" in my back pocket. If often said, that when God handed out patience, I didn't want to wait in line. I am relating it to my own experience. I found this board in sure hopes that it would give me plans B thru Z. I needed to know my next steps. The immediate concerns I was posting a year ago-certain I needed an immediate black and white answer - didn't come to fruition OR unfolded in a different way than my projections. I learned a lot of "best choice ways" to deal within the moment. By being here, I gained a "best practice" philosophy of parenting a substance abusing "man-child" (or woman-child) based on the collective history of parents who had been there done that or were in the midst of it too.</p><p></p><p>So, I would say -- pretend you are eating an elephant. Take it one bite at a time and deal with the black and white issues at hand. Start thinking of the ground rules of living in your home, the logistics of getting him reacquainted with his kids and wife - the who what and where of those things. Buy a safe to lock up your medications and consider getting rid of any alcohol or at least securing it somewhere. Find a few AA options and know the schedules. </p><p></p><p>Things like the job and transportation will have to wait until they actually unfold. You can't fret about getting him to a job he hasn't gotten yet or about how long he will stay when you have no idea if he will have income. Those are things you will have to address as they come to fruition. You have the skills to do it. You are strong and you have a clear view of the big picture. And you love your son. It will work out. Trust yourself. </p><p></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/you_go_girl.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":you_go_girl:" title="you_go_girl :you_go_girl:" data-shortname=":you_go_girl:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 552439"] hmmmm... What's taken you so long? I wouldn't say it's taken long at all! December is still a ways off. When your son got into trouble & you found out daughter in law was pg, you were in crisis. Not just the "how am I going to deal with the issues at hand" but "what will become of him/ them?" "What if? How? When? etc." I am relating it to my own experiences and the things that make me panic in the middle of the night. I like having my ducks in a row. Belt and suspenders. When I go with "Plan A" I like knowing that I have "Plan B" [B]THROUGH [/B]"Plan Z" in my back pocket. If often said, that when God handed out patience, I didn't want to wait in line. I am relating it to my own experience. I found this board in sure hopes that it would give me plans B thru Z. I needed to know my next steps. The immediate concerns I was posting a year ago-certain I needed an immediate black and white answer - didn't come to fruition OR unfolded in a different way than my projections. I learned a lot of "best choice ways" to deal within the moment. By being here, I gained a "best practice" philosophy of parenting a substance abusing "man-child" (or woman-child) based on the collective history of parents who had been there done that or were in the midst of it too. So, I would say -- pretend you are eating an elephant. Take it one bite at a time and deal with the black and white issues at hand. Start thinking of the ground rules of living in your home, the logistics of getting him reacquainted with his kids and wife - the who what and where of those things. Buy a safe to lock up your medications and consider getting rid of any alcohol or at least securing it somewhere. Find a few AA options and know the schedules. Things like the job and transportation will have to wait until they actually unfold. You can't fret about getting him to a job he hasn't gotten yet or about how long he will stay when you have no idea if he will have income. Those are things you will have to address as they come to fruition. You have the skills to do it. You are strong and you have a clear view of the big picture. And you love your son. It will work out. Trust yourself. :you_go_girl: [/QUOTE]
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